Postpartum Rage?

I’m 5 months postpartum after my first pregnancy (twin girls!) and I have next to no patience with my SS (12) and SD (9) most of the time. I know that they haven’t had baby siblings before, and logically I know they’re just being kids. But I just loose it over the stupidest things it feels like. I don’t want them to feel like the babies arrival has made me mean; and their dad and I also do expect them to help around the house and occasionally with the babies. I think I have the strongest reaction when these expectations aren’t being met. I guess I’m just here to vent mostly, but if there is anyone with a similar experience I would love some advice. Is this postpartum rage or am I just being mean 😪

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@Alicia it’s so hard! That happens sometimes with both SD and SS just watching me struggle with both babies screaming. They’re a little better at stepping in now, but sometimes I think I expect too much of them. They didn’t have any responsibilities/chores or boundaries before I came along and while their dad wanted that and I support him in it, I think they think it’s all me and I’m the mean stepmom. I hate it

Yes! My 9 mo old has never slept through the night. When im sleep deprived, I have anger I never knew I had and rage against everyone and everything.. I have 2 step sons 7 and 15 and they drain the life out of me too. I don't have energy to pick up after everyone and when the 7 and 15 yr old don't do their part I go off.

It was just me and my sister growing up, but we were self sufficient and always helped around the house and at family gatherings so I think that’s why I find it so frustrating! They are doing better at chores and things, but I get so tired of constantly having remind and pick up after them. My husband doesn’t see the mess the same way I do (ADHD brain), so it’s mostly me reminding them. They’re also getting more helpful with the babies, but what set me off today was asking my SD if the baby she was holding needed a diaper change and she wouldn’t even try to check even though I’ve shown her how to. Drives me nuts when they don’t even attempt to try something.

I live in a house with all boys. The mental load I carry is unreal.

So your upset that your sk don’t help out with YOUR baby? I understand the frustration but you can’t be mad if they don’t want too do things for the baby that you chose to have. Maybe have a chore chart and have them help that way x

Your hormones are all over the place, so keep that in mind. Around 4/5mths and I was still angry I got diagnosed with PPD and started meds. I've been SO much better. Maybe talk to your doctor. Also- don't expect much help from kids that age with babies. It's pretty unreasonable in my opinion.