Last name delema!
Hi!
My second son was born 1 week ago and I have been struggling with his last name. My husband I will be married 3 years in March and I have no intention of changing my last name. It wasn’t a question of what our first son’s last name would be (my husband’s) but when we found out I was pregnant with another boy I wanted our second son to have my last name. My sons are the only grandchildren of my parents and I have a strong sense of family pride that I want to pass on. My husband was supportive of that decision all through pregnancy and we told friends and family our intentions. Yesterday we made a quick decision with the birth records department in the hospital cause the paperwork needed to be completed and my husband gave them his last name. I have been crying all day about this decision and feel cheated out of carrying on my family name. My son was also a very quick labor which resulted in an unplanned home birth which has left me feeling even more strongly about him having my family name. I’m afraid I’ll never be happy with him having my husband’s name but not sure if it’s worth the trouble of changing it again. There are so many logistical and social pressures that I don’t want to dictate my life and decisions but also pushed us towards my husband’s name. I’m heartbroken and don’t know what to do!
Change it. If the conversation panned out that way and your husband didn’t follow through. Talk to him and tell him you’re not okay. And you want to change it