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FIL Makes Fun of Baby Name

Seeking advice- I am 28 weeks with a baby girl, and my husband and I have a top name pick that we really love. The name is from my Welsh heritage, so it’s a bit uncommon, but I know several women with the name, so we don’t feel it’s too out of the box. However, the name sounds similar to a town near where my in-laws live. Because the name is uncommon, my father in law has never been able to pronounce it correctly, and has been joking that he is just going to call the baby by the name of the town, rather than the name we have chosen. He’s never blatantly rude, but it does often feel like an attack, rather than just ignorance and inability to pronounce. I’ve been nervous about using an uncommon name, but had finally moved past the fear of an uncommon name for our child as she goes through life and introduces herself to people. But now, having someone so close to her refuse to learn to pronounce her name correctly feels like a harder pill to swallow, and is making me reconsider our favorite name choice. How do I handle this situation?

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Americans are ignorant and refuse to pronounce people's names correctly unless it's easy like Sam or Samantha. Correct him. Correct him with an attitude every single time. He's a grown man, he can pronounce it and is being a jerk.

It’s your baby not his! So he can kick rocks! I am in an interracial marriage and I was throwing names out there. One of the names I liked was Imani but my MIL was quick to shut it down and said “ I don’t like that name because a lot of African American use it” I gasped because I am African. I was like how dare does she think that way? You know what! That has only motivated me to give my baby girl an African name. So don’t overthink it 🦋. Moving forward me and my husband have decided not to share the name with anyone until she’s here 🩷🩷

This is why my husband and I aren't sharing our choice until baby is here. At that point, no one else gets a say. Your fil is being ignorant. Names from other cultures/languages can definitely be confusing the first time we see or hear them, but with practice, he absolutely can pronounce it. Personally I'd tell anyone in my life who did that they won't be allowed around my child if they don't learn to pronounce the name. It's unacceptable to intentionally call someone by the wrong name because you refuse to try.

We're calling ours Megatron until she comes out for this exact reason! My parents ask me weekly what names were thinking of, and I'm not even telling them our options 🙈

My MIL didn’t like one of our name choices but it resonated with my wife and at the end of the day that’s all that matters. As long as it holds a special place with you and your husband and you like it for your little one that’s all that counts. We picked the name she wasn’t a fan of and now she’s got no choice but to be on board with it.

I wanted to name my daughter Liadan Rose (Lee-un-den) because we have strong Irish traditions and heritage in my family everyone made me feel like it was wrong to choose that for her name the other option was Azalea Rose well before I can announce the name I picked my bd told his family what he wanted and now I have onesies and everything with the name he picked he robbed me of that then decided to break up with me while I'm still pregnant if he don't show up at the hospital because I won't tell him either I will pick her name

@Sharee I’m sorry you went through this, you don’t deserve that kind of treatment and behavior from everyone. Liadan Rose is a cute name and has good pronounciation, I don’t see any problems with the name

@Sharee f him! Pick whatever name you want mamas

@Sharee Liadan Rose is so pretty 😍

My mother and mother in law and everyone else hates my baby boy’s name I picked (Carmelo)—but I just say “I don’t care; it’s my baby” to everyone that gives me their unwarranted opinion. You know what’s best for you and your family