Parents driving me crazy!

I think I’m just looking to vent and get advice on how to achieve boundaries. My mom, after telling her we were pregnant at 12 weeks, gave me a list of names I have to call my child as if it’s her choice alone. Some were horribly outdated and 100% NOT an option for us. My father and aunt are strongly opinionated conspiracy followers and anti vaxxers. They gave my husband and I stern talking to about how essential oils and homeopathics can cure everything including polio and measles. At this point I want to retreat and have no interaction with them! I don’t handle conflict well when the other side gets angry about differing points of view. While I want our baby to have a great relationship with their grandparents, this pushiness when we haven’t even had our child yet is extremely challenging… Any advice would be appreciated!

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Hey sorry just seeing this. Do you live with these family members? I’m sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed. Some family members are extremely opinionated and don’t comprehend boundaries or care. Overbearing people act on impulses and sometimes they can’t help themselves. I would start by avoiding contact. You’re right to retreat . I ask if you live with them so that way if you don’t, I would avoid them and conversations regarding those subjects. I would be stern yet respectful in telling them that you’ve heard them..you’ve considered their opinions, you’ve done your research, and you don’t want to discuss it again. I would let them know you wish avoid all conversations moving forward or they won’t be seeing your child. If you want them in ur life but they refuse to see the issue, it’s so frustrating, but it’s not our job to convince them. I hope that helps

@DJ AMMMM💕🫶🏼🙏 thanks for responding. I do not live with them. We did live with my father for 7 months and had to live with daily conspiracy talk. Tried many different strategies. Asking to change the subject and not bring it up again led him to move out of our house. It’s a much better relationship now that he found his own space so having him bring these things up again knowing our views is frustrating. We’ll try a calm but firm approach. Setting boundaries is a hard thing to navigate when there’s resistance.

Your baby, your rules. It is so hard to argue with some narrow minded people. I would just smile and nod to the anti vaxxers- they don’t need to know your babies medical records. As for the names you just say you want to decide upon meeting them, once they are named and announced it is too late 😅 Wishing you the best with it all xx