Husband flirts while kid is awake but then…

Once I put him to bed he expects me to do all the initiating. I have no interest right now. Sorry I’m a BF SAHM who has a husband constantly up her ass. It’s a fucked up continuous cycle of him complaining I don’t initiate enough. He stops playing around as soon as it’s possible. The only thing he does is a flirty dry hump or complain. Now he’s going to use my lack of libido as his excuse to find an escort. But I brought this hurt upon myself is what he tell me. Second thing on that, when will he do this? We have a baby. I don’t ever want to leave him, I want to make it work and find a way to be happy. How? I want our kids to see us together. I came from a divorced home and it was awful. We are butting heads constantly lately and our lack of sex life is making it worse as he says. He told me (finally, the words came out of his mouth) that he’s depressed. After this. I knew that. But he wants to make it look like I cause it. We made a deal to get back to individual therapy. I have seen my therapist twice and he hasn’t made a single appointment. I know we need marriage counseling but insurance doesn’t pay for that and money is tight right now.

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If your husband wants to get your libido back up he needs to understand that you will need time for yourself Being at home with kids 24/7; being touched all the time is exhausting. They seriously don’t get how much, and how much a couple hours of self care a week can do for you, and wherefore the marriage

Any talk of escorts is out of line. You're down, he just needs to get with the new schedule. I know it's a pain if you have to get up with baby in the night but consider getting into bed naked and snuggling up for a while each night. You don't have to do any initiating, just hug and hold him. If he's not into it after 5 minutes, slip back into your clothes and carry on playing on your phone until you fall asleep. If he's not taking the bait when he can literally touch and taste it, the problem is not with you....

Girl God didn’t stop making men when he made your husband. Stepdads are just as good if not better especially when bio dad is a narcissistic psychological abuser like your husband. To threaten you with escorts is just downright evil.

I appreciate what all three of you had to say. This morning I woke up to him telling me he’s looking forward to hurting me. That’s the short version… he was drilling in to me. He’s out for revenge. He thinks I want to cause him this pain. I’m thinking he’s got a personality disorder. This is nuts. All he thinks about are his nuts.