Newborn stage

My baby is currently just over 2 months old and it honestly is so hard emotionally and physically feeling like I have no time for myself either my ‘me’ time is basic hygiene like a 15 min shower or cleaning up it does start to feel like you’re going insane! But it does get easier you adapt jusu be patient with yourself My advice is if you need a break have one! It’s okay to let someone watch little one while you have some time to yourself so you’re feeling good within yourself to make sure your mental health is looked after to your body has gone through a huge thing! And your whole life has changed I think most mums in the newborn stage will agree with what you’re saying and it’s completely normal, remember it’a okay to ask for help!

The people who say it’s the easiest are probably very far in to parenthood and therefore can look back and compare and to them it might feel like newborn stage was easier. But that doesn’t mean it is for everyone! Personally I find it very hard and feel exactly the same as you but we may look back in a few months/ years and go wow that was hard or that it was easy. I’m sure once we’re in the swing of things it’ll get better. Just remember the long nights won’t last forever but neither will your baby being this small. Concentrate on the good, they won’t need you forever, try to keep that positive side of it in the forefront of your mind 🫶🏻🫶🏻

I could never relate to those people that found the newborn stage easy. I have a toddler and found it so so hard when she was a newborn. Whereas I absolutely adore the toddler stage! In my opinion and from my personal experience, the newborn stage is the hardest and then it gets easier. My toddler is such a joy to be around and of course there are tantrums but you know why they’re crying and that makes it so much easier! Now that I have a newborn again, the only thing getting me through , is knowing how good it gets once I’m out of the newborn trenches. Hang in there xx

I hope it’s not the easiest because ouch I find it so hard!! The lack of sleep, the crying (both from me and baby haha), getting to know them and understand them, dozens of diaper changes a day and night, lack of time alone, breastfeeding, while also recovering from birth! My little boy is 5 weeks old and already it’s so nice to see him smile to us when he wakes up in the morning so I can’t wait for him to get a bit older so we can interact more! So far I told my boyfriend I feel like this will be my least favourite stage, but we’ll see I guess! It’s hard when you’re going through it but also time goes by so fast so it doesn’t last long! Hopefully the next stages are easier and in the meantime we can enjoy how tiny and adorable they are 🥹🥰🥰

I found it sooooo hard, even friends who had toddlers saying ‘just you wait’ I found difficult. You’re doing amazing, you will get through it, but it’s certainly the toughest few months I’ve ever had x

I’m finding it hard too! I manage to find some me time at night before going to sleep (just reading a book for 15 minutes) but the newborn stage is certainly much harder than pregnancy. Pregnancy was a breeze for me compared to this but also soaking in the newborn stage as much as possible as he won’t be this tiny for long😫

It is hard. It's non stop and all consuming. I can't decide if coming on here is helpful as all I see are posts about babies sleeping all day or night when mine doesn't etc.

It is hard and being sleep deprived it the worst. All stages have their difficulties but I think what’s ‘easiest’ right now is that you can leave the house whatever time suits with baby, it’s harder when they’re in a set routine and you’re house bound for naps. Different type of hard though! I know everyone says it goes so fast but honestly it won’t last too long. Take all the baby cuddles 🥰 Xx

I’ve always preferred the toddler stage more personally.

Second time mum and I don’t enjoy the newborn stage. Toddlers are so much easier, tantrums aside.

Yes I really don’t like the newborn stage personally, I find all the feeding and fussing and crying a bit of a drag 😅😴 and the unpredictable sleep. Even though my almost two year old throws a good tantrum she is so funny and their little character shines through. Little things soon start to change that make it easier, when they can sit up, play with toys, hold their own bottle etc! Hang in there! 🫶🫶

NO STAGE is harder than the newborn stage. I have a 20 month old and a 2 month old. I got to re-live the NB stage with a toddler, my toddler is well behaved, sweet, and loves his baby brother. To all those people that told me toddlerhood was the hardest. I DISAGREE, my NB has me reaching my breaking point atleast twice a week😅

Agree with all of the above, newborn stage is super tough and emotionally challenging. As a second time mum, I'd also add that all babies and births are completely different...and that can have a big impact on which stage you find "easiest". For me personally, I had a difficult birth with my first so I felt very overwhelmed in the newborn stage with her as I was still trying to process the birth whilst navigating being a first time mum. This time around I've had a really positive birth experience and that's had such a positive impact on my mood/not feeling overwhelmed. However our new baby isn't a great sleeper so I'm much more tired this time around. Xx

I have to admit I’m one of the people to say that the newborn stage is the easiest, I say that having an 18month old, and two step sons (4,6 who are autistic too so have their own challenges) but now I’m living the newborn stage again it’s not as easy as I remember, and this second baby is much easier than my first🤷‍♀️ It’s easier in terms of they’ll let you cuddle them without pushing you away; they don’t throw massive tantrums unnecessarily; they can’t decide that they suddenly don’t like their favourite food; they cant throw/kick/bite and all the other bad behaviours that older children experiment with; they can’t ask why to every single thing (unfortunately the list does go on) But it’s soooo so much harder as you’re sleep deprived, full of hormones, finding your feet etc. I adore the newborn stage for the tiny baby you get to cuddle, but I also can’t wait to see my baby grow older and join in with his older siblings🫶🏻 +

And after being the person who says that the newborn phase is the easiest, I have been feeling lately like I’d have another baby in a heartbeat if I didn’t have to live through the newborn phase again… so I think that says it all😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 What I can say is, someone said to me “get to the 3month mark, it gets easier” and I remember thinking “bullshit” but it did and I know lots of mums who can agree. Read into the “fourth trimester” which refers to the mother’s experience of the newborn phase…. Even tho the kids sometimes feel like they’re trickier, life as a whole does get easier as they grow up🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Biologically we are also designed to forget all the tricky things that come with pregnancy, labour and newborn stage to make you do it again and again. There’s a reason they have their big eyes… 👀 x

i have a 2 year old and i think 1 - 2 years old is so much easier than newborn. when they can communicate properly it really does get easier. even after a few months it gets easier, newborn stage is hard especially with your first because it's all sooo new. try to remember it's all temporary. sending love xx

@Jade innit?….. I asked my mum how is it possible that she gave birth to us Five with all this pain and stuff and all VIgina birth. She replied “God has made it possible to wipe off the memories of pain we go through once baby is here and your body start feeling to want to another baby again after some few months “ Am 7 weeks postpartum as second time mum and I can’t even describe all the symptoms I had. Am starting to forget. Honestly we women! We are amazing… no one like us. I applaud us all… WELLDONE!👏👏👏👏

My friend summed it up in a good way - really there isn't any stage that is "easier" than any other, you face different challenges and difficulties that change with their age and some you will just feel better at dealing with than others and that's an entirely personal thing depending on what you and your baby are like.

It's so hard with your first!!! Absolutely hated it, wasn't even sure I liked my baby. Forgive yourself, there is no perfect and you don't always have to try your best! If you feel overwhelmed I find a walk always help or go to another room/outside and scream or shout... I found it so much easier as he got bigger (mabye 9/12 months) however absolutely loving the newborn stage with my second (mostly) xxx

It's not the easiest at all. I hate comments like that, as all it does is make those who are already having a hard time feel bad / worried and anxious about how much harder it might get. Personally, having no time to sit and eat an uninterrupted meal, or shower, or get a full night's sleep, or do literally anything for myself - feeling like I'm always last priority, even when it comes to basic needs - is the hardest. It is hard and you're not alone in feeling that way. Those things do get easier as they get older, I promise.

The newborn stage is rough!! I’m second time round and although yes toddlers are hard because of the tantrums, newborns is just absolutely constant! It’s the monotony of it, I’m needed constantly and I’m shattered all the time. We are still waking every 2-3 hours so I’m exhausted. It does get easier I promise you. I think that’s the only thing I’m clinging onto this time, I know how temporary it all is.