Loving your children equally

This is weird but I’m pregnant with my second baby and am getting kinda nervous about it. I love my baby girl more than anything in this world she’s my princess and will always be my favourite little girl 🥰 Im due my baby boy in may and am scared I won’t be able to connect with him in the same way (complications and being high risk has already made this slightly harder for me). Like I already love him and always will but idk is it going to be different than with my daughter when he’s here? When I was in the hospital after having my daughter. I was obviously a ftm and all my attention was on my newborn baby but I’m worried that when I’m in hospital having this baby I’m going to spend most of my time worrying about my daughter (we havnt spent a lot of time apart since she was born and if I’m in hospital any longer than a night it’ll be the longest I’ve been away from her, I was in for 5 days with her). I know she’ll be okay my mums going to watch her when it happens and I want to focus on my baby boy while in the hospital because it’ll more likely than not be the only time it’ll be just me and him but I’m scared I won’t be able to.
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You will absolutely love him the same. I had all these same fears… my first born was the apple of my eye and I didn’t understand how I could feel that way about another… but you do! My second born stole my heart in just the same way. They are chalk and cheese, polar opposites and I love them each for who they are and the joys they bring to us, equally. X

When I went into labor and delivery I did worry about my firstborn a lot but I kept telling myself that he’s safe and happy.. I only ever let someone I completely 100% trust watch him overnight so I wasn’t too worried. Had my second baby a week ago and there definitely is an adjustment period but I still am able to show my firstborn how loved he is and that he is still very important to me. I had my mother-in-law watch my son for 3 days so that once we had been released from the hospital we could have at least a day of being home getting used to a new baby before we brought our son home.. best decision I ever made because that first night home was super rough for us.

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