MIL cleaning my house

Let her do it, sod it, it's free cleaning help ✨🏡🙂

I'm not sure if there's more depth to 'why' this is offensive to you i.e. if she's done other things — but based on what you wrote I don't see it as an issue. Free cleaning while you're gone?! Sold!

so u get to come home to a clean home? almost like a reset? i would take that offer and RUN lol 😆🏃🏼‍♀️

Hi I’m coming back to update that she did NOT end up going

I think I was mad because I knew she probably wouldn’t have come. I also came around and was actually ok and excited that was after I had a convo with my fiance. So I’m quite annoyed. Starting to think she told my fiance because she wasn’t sure or not. I am just frustrated she offered and never went. I get it she has her own life but she offers and then says no. Make that make sense?

The way this was communicated to me was so wrong. And then told she’s not going to come at the time I was told she was coming. As I am packing he randomly states “she’s coming over to clean” I straight up said no because I felt over stepped The convo of her offering was in Spanish as I am running around the house trying to get me and our girls ready for our flight in two hours.. I am not fluent enough to chime in a convo that goes back and forth English and Spanish in my own home or ever. They know that for the past 6 years, I am working on learning Spanish. Yea y’all are gonna say it’s a culture thing but his mom doesn’t even conversate with me and she KNOWS how to speak english. Enough to ask when a good time would be help clean. 🤷🏽‍♀️ It’s not about the free cleaning, great, free someone else doing it. I agree. But I am a sahm to twins and am very hard on myself with the lack of my “organization”/ cleaning so I have been trying to work on it.

I hear you. Since having our baby, it's been a struggle to keep things as organized as I want it to be. Help is nice, but I would want to be offered instead of told. My friend said he was going to get a company to come clean. I was offended because like you, I've been very hard on myself and feel as if it undermines me as a woman the same way it would probably undermine a man if some other man stepped in and financially supported his family. I do my best at this point and know that if there's a mess, it's because I'm giving my baby my time instead, which is far more meaningful than clutter! Maybe she can help you instead of making you feel like you're not doing good enough! Your little ones are beyond lucky to have you at as a sahm and they'll remember that time with you rather than the lack of organization! 🤗

Im coming back to say they haven’t offered again as well as pull a stunt lastnight telling my husband that they are only concerned for his health in which we are doing our absolute best to take care of all of us. We can’t afford me to work blah blah. But we both got cornered and blindsided. They don’t offer to watch both kids ever, they don’t watch them any longer than an hour or two. They have messed with me so much that now I just don’t want to be apart of my hubbys family. After our daughters first birthday they offered HIM to host next years before that party even ended. Have I heard anything else? Nope. So I completely feel like we are being sabotaged by them. My hubby not taking the road they wanted him to and having resentment over me because we had kids.