Advice on step mom role or other mom role
Hi, so I’m new to this step mom roll or as we call it other mother as my boyfriend and his daughter want it. I need advice or anything really on how to be that for a 10 year old.
So I have met my boyfriend’s daughter on FaceTime before and yesterday in person and it went perfect! She’s told her dad as we were bowling that I’m perfect and she’s already starting to really like me and loves that I’m part of the family now. She told dad that I’m the one for him and that Grayson and I are the perfect part to them to be a family. I was in aww when I heard that and teared up. I have a 3 year old son of my own and I will love my boyfriend’s daughter like my own. I will never take the role as her mom fully because her own mom is first always. Her mom though isn’t the best at all and is not loving and always there for her and never does all the girl things or the things that she needs from her mom. She’s let her daughter down so much. Her mom’s boyfriend is a drunk and has layed his hands on her so this is why dad has full custody of her and she lives with him full time.
Who’s a step mom or like a second mom to their boyfriends or husbands kids and can give me some advice or anything?
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Awww thank you so much!! @Nicole
@Nicole right! I was rereading, like, what advice do you need?! 😅 The best compliment you could have is a kid’s love! & it sounds like you have that! Don’t focus on her biological mom being “first”, since clearly child suffers disappointment from her. Let child call their mom what they want, & refer to you as they feel comfortable. If at one point she calls you Mom, don’t correct her with the “politically correct title” you have given yourself. If she never wants to call you Mom, be ok with that too. Other than that, sounds like you’re doing amazing!! 💛
Thank you so much!! @Liz
Seems like you don't need any advice tbh sounds like your already doing great 🩷