I wanna marry my man so bad

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you both? My partner and I were together for 10 years before he proposed, for the last 4 years of that I was getting really upset at the lack of a proposal and taking our relationship to the next level. It wasn’t because he wasn’t serious about us as a couple, but more because of our age, we got together at 18 so he didn’t feel like marriage was something he was ready for until he got to his late 20s. It’s different for every one of course, some men are happy to get married young.

@Ari 25 and 29. I was 19 when we got together, he did say he wanted kids and marriage when he’s in his 30’s. We had our baby recently and I even explained to him how when u propose u don’t need to get married right away. We can have an affordable wedding and even get affordable rings. I think it’s just a fear of the unknown, money, and feeling like marriage would change us. That’s what I got from the past few years of discussing this. He even says he doesn’t wanna rush but come on 6 years is rushing???

Girl I feel this my man and I have been together 7yrs this year and every time I even bring up marriage he changes topics even though he says he wants to get married…he told me during an argument one night that he was still trying to figure out if he wanted to marry me which to me tells me he doesn’t…I’m 28 about to be 29 and he just turned 37 in December

I never understand why men in long term relationships don’t propose if they both *want* to get married. Like lol what’s the big deal😂 nothing much changes other than legal stuff

@Chí Exactly what I keep telling him nothing changes. Plus it’s more beneficial for the woman in some cultures in terms of respect, I have his child but when his dad introduces me and my son he skips over me and says this is my grandson. If I’m his wife I’m addressed with more respect it’s like old people are scared of the word girlfriend.

@Melissa Dawson The fact that he changes topics is such a red flag. My man used to get angry actually when I’d bring it up & be very defensive until I told him this topic should be a positive thing to talk about if it brings u such negative feelings maybe u don’t want it as much as me then he started to be less upset talking about it and actually listens to me. I don’t bring it up much anymore though because I want him to do it because he loves me not because he feels like he has to.

I just hate that it seems to be because of money, he once said after we had our son he put it on the back burner and also he doesn’t wanna rush. I just feel like my last serious relationship was around this long and he couldn’t commit so it makes me feel like I’m not worthy of commitment even after giving him a baby and doing my best to show my love.

Yeah I’m on the verge of considering breaking things off…it’s hard we have 2 kids together (one planned one not) a house and other things.. we are very intertwined which is to be expected after so long but ugh..I just know there’s a man that wouldn’t hesitate but idk scared to start over

My friend had a similar situation, I told her the way she was, he wouldn't want to ask her without knowing he could afford a big do, a massive ring and a real diamond. That's just who she is. I told her to keep being patient, he just knows he needs to be financially secure to give her what she deserves. They are now getting married after being together for 11 years, he's sorted financially now. Some men want it sorted financially before taking a wife. I got married at 20 years old, we had a lil wedding and a tiny ring I loved but I'm not high maintenance at all, I'm natural, no make-up and didn't care for a wedding. I wanted a marriage, not a wedding so we got married early. I'd say, of this is the man you wanna be with be patient if he's the type to want it all together for you he'll do it when he's right with money.

@Melissa Dawson I feel you on this I even tell him to his face now I can’t wait to meet my husband cuz he wouldn’t hesitate to marry me like you do. He doesn’t like it but come on by now. I tried in 2023 to ask him if he would propose in 2024 he said yeah closer to the end of the year. I got pregnant that same month we had our talk & before I knew I was pregnant I told him if we aren’t engaged by our anniversary 2024 I’m gonna consider our relationship status. Since I got pregnant it was not too much on my mind that was August 2023, then in December 2023 I brought it up again and cried so he bought a ring even tho I said don’t do it only cuz I’m sad. It didn’t fit so we sent it back and it is now 2025 no ring. Btw in like June 2024 I brought it up and that’s when he said he put it on the back burner.

@Misha I told him I wouldn’t mind signing the papers and having a small get together with friends I even shown him a site with affordable rings.

That may have just hurt his ego. Men are tied to their income. If he knows you want a fairy tale wedding deep down he'll not let you settle for affordable when he knows you want more. It will just make him feel less of a man not being in the position to give his woman what she truly wants.

@Misha He knows me well enough to know I don’t want a big wedding. I don’t even like attention on me I’ve dealt with social anxiety for a long time. I’ve gotten a lot better with it but it’s still affecting me a lot.

@Misha I told him I want a summer wedding in the park something small with friends

Ahh okay. Maybe he's hung up on something else then. All I can say is if he's the man you wanna be with wait for him. But if being a wife is more important maybe find someone who wants the same thing as you.

I know that this doesn’t matter but the way I was raised, I believe once you have kids and live with a man, already doing wifey ish, the chances of getting married decreases as they’re like “what’s the point of legally tying myself to this person, spending a fortune on a ring and wedding when we’re already living like husband and wife” My husband and I got married at 22. He didn’t come from money but worked really hard and I guess got lucky and got a really great job and his business also boomed but I totally understand why some men wait to be financially stable, it makes sense and as I guy I would do the same. However I then don’t get why they have kids because a child is a bigger commitment and is more expensive lmfao

I was with my ex for 12 years and he always said he never wanted to get married, he managed to convince me that was OK (thank god I never married him though). I then met my now fiance and we both knew we wanted to get married someday, and agreed that a proposal should come within 5 years. He proposed last year after 4.5 years together ❤️. I don't think we will marry for a few years yet, but that's OK, no rush

I feel this. So and I have been together 10 yrs march 24th and have 4 kids and still no proposal or talk of marriage.... it's frustrating......