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Thank you very much for your advise and this give me hope like you say I guess is better to get out now hopefully I will find someone else soon i
Honestly Incog you have my sympathy as what your husband has done is awful. He’s purposely baited and switched on you knowing as women we have a time clock on our fertility, whereas if he changed his mind, he could be a dad well into his twilight years if he wanted. Don’t dilly dally as time is of the essence. It’s easy to get drawn back into the relationship especially where you still love him, but you need to focus on your end goal here - having a child, and it won’t be with him. Don’t listen to any false platitudes he may say, he’ll want to keep you around to make HIS life easier. Use these next few weeks to get your ducks in a row and speak to a solicitor about starting divorce process, separating, financials etc. It won’t be easy but try and remember what you are doing this for. When you have your child in your arms, you’ll look back on this day and be thankful you took action swiftly and gave yourself the best opportunity to have your child. Good luck, I hope it all works out 🧡
I think you should start considering freezing your eggs or speaking with a doctor about options and take some time to think about everything before making any huge decision. Marriage is hard and sometimes we have to seek an unbiased and professional intervention before we call it quits. During each decision give yourself grace. Wishing you all the best
Thank you very much everyone this is very helpful and I am grateful for this group going over all the comment I can’t thank you enough I will definitely look into freezing my eggs while I can and let him go if he still don’t want to make decision about having kids because for me I can’t stay without any child Thank y’all
I had my first child at 36, I have a friend who has just had a child at 41. Don't worry about the age , your husband never wanted children, and it wouldn't surprise me if he has done something to prevent you from having kids.
@Melissa that’s my mind I think he has done something for me not to get pregnant because I tried all but I never get pregnant
Maybe he’s having doubts or transferring his fears he might think he can’t, have you had your fertility checked? I had my daughter at 41 but it took a little longer and a lot of healthy eating / planning on both our parts, talk to him don’t panic.
@Naomi I checked mine but he refuse to check his I begged and begged but he still refused
Wow, how deceitful and cruel of him to pull the rug from under your feet! The simple fact is if you 100% want a child and he doesn’t, you need to divorce him and start the process on your own. Whether that is via adoption, sperm donor or finding another partner. Don’t be put off by your age, I know plenty of mums who had their first child in their late 30s and are now having their second and thirds in their 40s. I had 2 friends who were in similar situations as you, one was 37 the other 38. The 37yo left her bf and went backpacking. She met her future husband whilst travelling, they got married a year later and she had her first child at 39. The 38yo decided to go down sperm donor route and had her first child at 40. She also later met her partner and she gave birth to her second child at 43.