You must learn to enjoy her

I sometimes feel stressed what to cook for my child, how to plan naps, how to keep her busy. She is a good girl. But it seems like that the way I react to her is not always the way my husbands would like me to be. He is on a trip right now and told me yesterday on the phone that I had to learn to enjoy our child. I must say that he is super loving and super warm but he is less around her than I am. After that call, I cried and I doubted myself a lot. Am I not loving enough? Do I take things too serious? How can I be a relaxed mother? I love books, maybe you can recommend me any?