Gender disappointment

I'm kinda in the same boat. 3rd baby in 5 years, all boys. This baby was the most unexpected and it's been mentally hard. Part of me is sad I'll never have a little girl I get to dress in super cute clothes or get to have a strong relationship with. But I look at it like I've already been through this twice, I know exactly what to expect, it'll be a bit "easier". Something that has helped me get a little bit more excited is buy a couple cute newborn outfits even though I still had all the old baby clothes and some cute maternity/postpartum outfits for me!

I have great advice Be thankful for what you have and stop recreating if having a boy is “devastating”. At least you’re healthy and so is your child.. I can think of many woman who would be thrilled to have a 1st child let alone a fourth. Consider yourself blessed.

@Siera this is really dismissive. She's allowed to have her feelings and express them in a safe place. It's okay to be a little disappointed with a certain gender. I'm sure she'll still absolutely love that little boy when he's born. Just like with any sort of disappointment in life, it's an adjustment sometimes. Let her have her space.

@Siera wow Tysm. I’m actually so devastated because my first that died was my only girl and I’ll never get that but didn’t want to bring it up just wanted to ask for support. If you don’t have something nice to say maybe just ignore someone else’s post

@Annika thankyou 💗

@Siera hope you have the day you deserve 🫶

I'm sorry for your loss OP 😩 don't let crabby siera get to you, she clearly has her own issues 💕

@Siera I'm certainly not naive but I give everyone the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. Sorry you feel like you can't trust anyone

@Siera I'm 100% grasping the concept of what she's saying. I just feel like you could be a little more sensitive to what others are feeling. Some people don't have others they can go to to talk to. If I'm being honest, I never thought I'd be where I am either and it's okay to admit that. We look the same age so I don't feel like calling me young helps justify an argument here. I really mean you no disrespect either, I just believe we all need a little more compassion in this world right now. Shits hard enough out there without others invalidating our feeings.

@Siera so since we're talking age here, how old are you? And I'm sorry for coming out of the gate aggressive, I tend to be flighty these days and it's something I'm trying to work on. I'm also sorry about your loss, that must've been a terrifying experience. I've experienced a miscarriage too and had an ectopic scare with my current pregnancy, so I understand both sides how every pregnancy is a blessing, but sometimes gender disappointment can be a thing. I understand we probably could just keep going back and forth on this all day, so again, I'm sorry I started out aggressive and I take back my comment about having the day you deserve.

I’m assuming comments were deleted. Really didn’t post this to be controversial just to find connection and vent. As I said grateful for this healthy pregnancy but will always miss what I don’t have and it’s a struggle

I wanted my second baby to be a boy again lol but I got a girl… I think we always want what we don’t have! I’m sure you will be overjoyed when your boy gets here! Congrats 🎊 ma!