Lied straight to my face AGAIN!

Okay I’m DONE with this pathetic excuse for a man. I am so fed up. I’m over it. How do I get through to this man that I am completely done with him? Like for real this time? I cant leave. I dont have family or friends or a job. He lies straight to my face time and time again. Over the stupidest of stuff so to me hes definitely lying about more. I told him I was going to change my last name because he clearly doesnt want to get married right? Well he TOLD me to my FACE he was going to propose yesterday so of course I waited all day and NOTHING. Its been 10 years. Im seriously done with him. So how do I get it through his mind?

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There is WAY more to this but it would literally take DAYS to explain

Well yeah can't sleep in the same bed as him. You can't have sex. You tell him it's over. And you need to make a plan to live elsewhere.

You say you’re done but then want to know how to get it through his mind? If he wanted to marry you, he would have done it years ago, it’s been 10 years. At this point if you’re not happy with not being married then it would be better to leave.

You gotta look at what your options are here. If you can't leave, how will you support yourself if you're able to get him to leave?

Sounds like you’re going to have to play the long game here. You need to find a source of income so you can support yourself. Does that mean going to school? Does that mean looking for jobs? If you started a job would you be able to save all of your money or some of your money? I’m not trying to be insensitive but you need to acknowledge your own actions here as well. You waited all day for a man who lies to you to propose, is that really logical? If you are stuck in this back and forth you need to truly pull yourself out of it because you may be enjoying the drama. I think you need to tell yourself that it’s over and worry about you and not him.

Hmm, so you say you're done, yet you won't leave and want to get through to him? Talk about mixed messages! He told you he was going to do it to shut you up, sorry! But if you're SO done with him, why were you even waiting for a proposal? Why would you want to marry him?

@Mama A thats what I’m saying. I dont want to get married to him. I refuse to at this point. Im done with him. We have to live together for the time being, I’m going to apply to jobs tonight once kids are in bed, but with his “high demanding” job(he works 55+ hours a week min. Hes never home when the kids are awake.) means I cant work much because i would pay a sitter more than I would make an hour where I live. So i can only work on days he is off. Two. I’m also trying to start a side hustle but getting it going is also hard because that would also require him to help with his kids. My kids are used to me. No one else. Not even their dad. My youngest whines when hes around because she doesnt know him.

@Rebecca i cant leave. Not wont. Hes made sure I have no one and no money. I want him to just leave me be. Co exist. Like i’ve said I’m fed up waiting and am done. Im moving on with my life.

Sorry 😢…10 years is a long time to wait but have a plan and work on it as best as you can to be financially independent and utilize this app to make friends that can help you as well. That’s such a tough situation but I pray you come through it

If he made sure you have no one, that sounds like emotional abuse at minimum. You might want to look into DV resources in your area to help you get out.

Then be done and never look back. You don't need to even explain or say more, just take some action.