My bd’s kids are choosing their mom’s sugar daddy over him

It’s such a toxic situation. My bd has 4 other kids, a 20, 18, 10, & 9 year old. But this has been going on for the past 6 yrs, His bm met a 50 year old man that’s a native and is in business with the casino, and we just found out that he’s a sex offender, he’s not registered though but word of mouth around the area is he’s a real weirdo and done questionable sex offender like things! She has her mom and kids getting an allowance from this man also, this man bought his oldest son a brand new bmw sports car, and he recently took my bd’s oldest daughter prom dress shopping. My bd’s bm is currently locked up for 18 months for 2 DUI charges in Feb. So this man is still around and taking the kids places and buying them things and giving them allowance. My bd fought for custody for the youngest when she turned herself in and her and her mom fought and lied about him being on drugs and they denied the emergency custody and during that time the oldest wrote a letter to the judge that my bd was an absent dad and that he didn’t deserve custody, which isn’t true he’s always looking for his kids. so that def didn’t help. So now they’re under her mom’s watch, (which they don’t like either) she will come during the week and stay the night at their house but on the weekends they’re on their own and that’s when my bd tries to get them to come over but they’re stuck in their ways now. And it’s annoying because the gma can’t even handle it yet she fought for custody. She doesn’t wanna deal with the kids she wants money. Gma and her husband even had new cars from the sugar daddy so of course they’re gonna fight for it but not wanna deal with it. It’s just a disturbing situation and I feel bad cause I know it hurts my bd seeing this man step up and his kids choose this man because he has money. I feel like they’re still hurt their dad moved on and had a baby with me, but their mom cheated and that’s why everything is the way it is. They were married for 12 years and the kids grew up seeing their parents together up until 6 years ago. So I know it’s a hurtful situation but I wish they wouldn’t villainies my bd.

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If they didn’t give him custody of the kids especially if the mom is in jail, there’s a reason. I don’t know your situation but it sounds like there’s a lot missing here, maybe he’s not telling you the entire situation.

@Allexys idk honestly! Maybe? He took a drug test and passed, I think he just felt attacked and fell back because everyone was against him and just agreed to what the mom and gma wanted. My bd always made sure they got to school and their mom would be out partying and staying gone for days. Her (his bm) thing was that we didn’t have a room or beds for them but we would’ve figured it out. But I know the mom and gma fought hard so they could maintain their allowance. Because what sob story would they use without the young kids?

After she turned herself in it was going to be a custody battle against her mom and my bd and my bd was like whatever you think you know what’s best go ahead. But yet she (the gma) constantly calls my bd to do everything because she can’t handle it. He is the dad and he never has a problem coming for the kids when the gma asks for help but she literally can’t handle it and has my bd do everything. So what’s the difference? If he’s so unfit. They just want the control of having kids and getting money for them but don’t wanna deal with the kids