I won't lie to you I'm suffering the same way with my bf. He has high libido and has to let it go so often. I send pictures, videos, let him jerk off and finish on me. But I still catch it on his phone when he forgets to clear it. He tells me it's for educational purposes, like to learn from it to do more in the bedroom but he just looks at other girl's ssa or girls going at it solo. So I'm he's lying and I told him it makes me feel Im not good enough for him and he would prefer someone more exciting in the bedroom. He always tells me how much he loves me, how attractive I am to him and how we'd get married one day and all that I love hearing but in the back of my mind I can't stop but thinking of what I find on his phone....
@Jay me and my husband had a long talk about it and he says that he feels he has an addiction because since the age of 13 he has had to do it everyday but he told me if I send him pictures and videos every other day he will just use those instead. It’s not that I think porn is cheating it just makes me feel more insecure than I already am
I understand that. I'm chubbier than the girls he watches and it's hard sometimes to believe the things he says. He's aware of the issue. I don't think he's cheating either it's just at this point pushing how I told you I feel about it to the side to benefit your addiction hurts. Especially with past arguments bc of bedroom things and putting it together with porn it's hard bc it's so normal for men.
I’ve had the exact issue and we talked about it. We’ve made our own videos and I’ve asked him to use those instead because when he watches porn I feel insecure because porn is unrealistic and I just simply can’t be what he watches. I also told him that when he has the urge to communicate it to me so that him and I can do something about it. He has explained to me being exposed to it at such a young age has kind of made it habit for him, but slowly changing things have made things so much better for us. It has also boosted my confidence which has made things more exciting for both him and I. You’re very valid for your feelings and he acknowledges it, which is good! He’s just stuck in habit, but good thing about habits is that they can always be broken 🙂↕️
We agreed that I will start making content for him to use but I don’t know how to trust he isn’t still watching it!