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Dating while pregnant
A little back story, I've been poly /ENM for the last 12 years, introduced my husband into the lifestyle, and we've been this way ever since. 8 years ago, when I got pregnant with my first, we put poly on the back burner and focused on becoming parents. Now that I'm pregnant again, I told my husband he didn't need to take a break if he didn't want to. But for me, getting bigger and being pregnant, plus I know this is the last child I want to carry. I feel like I would be doing a disservice, putting myself out there, and looking for a relationship. Does that make sense? Am I just too much in my head about all of this? I keep trying, like I downland the apps, and then I just end up deleting them because I'm just not sure if I'm doing the right thing. I miss dating and talking to people, but I don't want to waste mine or anyone's time.
You’re never doing anyone a disservice by dating or putting yourself out there as long as you are in a healed position to be dating. This could depend on individual things that are your strongsuit or weak point when dating as well as your dynamic. As long as you’ve done your self work and everyone is on the same page I don’t see a problem with you dating. So what you’re growing in size, you are creating life right now. I see plenty of poly and monogamous women dating that should or shouldn’t be dating based on the quality of person they are. As long as you are happy with yourself in your personality your demeanor your growth and position in life I say go for it. Don’t limit yourself unless you think it would be stressful for you and your child. Embrace yourself and your current and future connections. If you have love and peace to share then share it.