Mil

ok ladies be honest, how many of us Sikh women have issues with our mils, I feel like I try my best to be a good daughter inlaw. I feel like she just does what she wants she don't listen to me, it goes through one ear and out the other. I was brought up in a family where I saw my grandma treat all her daughters inlaws like her daughters. now I've got married and got a lo she's taken control and I have to pick my battles. does anyone have Mil from hell? how do you cope?