Struggling with behaviour

Sammeeeee I feel like I could have written this however I’m the one who feels he may have adhd and the teacher keep telling me they have no issues with him he is literally the start pupil in class. I have read recently that at age 6 boys go through a change and that is the time they need their father the most so maybe the parenting style needs to change to adapt to their growth.

I literally got told the same thing about my son by his school too! its like hes not a naughty boy he just has his "moments" but those moments are a bit too much😅 im also being told its kinda normal at this age so im trying not to stress to much but it is kinda worrying don't worry you're not alone x

My daughter is the same, she’s so explosive I feel no matter what I do it’s never good enough. She screams the house down most days being told no, or time for bed etc. it’s so tough

Yes!! My daughter’s teacher is constantly pulling me up at the end of the day to discuss her behaviour and it’s really stressing us out. She’s defiant at home and at school. We’re constantly having to repeat ourselves but she doesn’t listen. We’ve spoken to her multiple times, taken away screen time, had grandparents speak to her. I’m at a loss of what to do 😭 she used to be so well behaved but it all changed once she started school.

My son just turned 6 and this is such a relief to read. He doesn’t have any additional needs or angry outbursts but the defiance all of a sudden has caught me off guard! He’s a wonderful kid but I struggle to manage it when he acts like that.

@Char I could have written this about our daughter and weve also implemented the no screen time. We got pulled back again today after school to have a chat about a meltdown and I just couldn’t stop the tears from coming out of my eyes! I’m so overwhelmed on how to deal with it.

@Sophie it’s so overwhelming! Every time the teacher calls me to speak to her I just want to scream and cry because it’s one thing after the other. Hopefully it’s just a phase for that age group 😭

It is so reassuring to hear we are not the only ones. He is defiant at home and school and, generally speaks, anywhere he feels confident enough. He started karate classes in January and we thought it was helping him but then he started not listening there as well as much as at last class his coach made him sit outside of the mat 😞. Looking from the outside it really seems like he does it on purpose to get a reaction from grown-ups? I would just like to be able to answer to his needs whatever it is he is after.. anyway it seems like we just need to hang in there and wait for it to pass. I kinda miss the terrible twos 😅

Haha literally also could’ve written this. Although my son’s teacher says it’s too early to test for ADHD at this age. Maybe in a year or two. Our other issue is he is terrified to sleep on his own so sneaks into our bed. I have a 9 month old so in order to get the best sleep I now just start out in the spare room. Hubby works abroad every 6 weeks so then I’m lumped with the boy in my bed (currently the case). I’m exhausted. How are the 5/6 year olds sleeping?

He slept in bed with us until last July when baby brother arrived😅. Then he slept in his room with his dad and a couple of months ago he decided he wanted to sleep on his own. But he has always been a terrible sleeper. He never slept straight through the night but he would always wake at least once per night. He might still do but it seems he can go back to sleep without us now - so there is hope 😅

What sorcery is that!? 😂😂😂. I even put “monsters keep out” signs all over his room yesterday after a discussion about whether he would like them / help make him feel safe which he agreed too. But at bedtime he honestly FREAKED OUT shouting at me to take them down. So I obliged because I didn’t need his meltdown waking the baby. But my word … I’m struggling.

@Samantha I can imagine. It is exhausting. I never thought we would get to this point to be honest I was really surprised 😅 my partner was even sad when he decided to sleep on his own🤣. I guess we never forced him and it worked eventually?! I don't really. I think this is the proof that every single child needs their own time

@Samantha at first we also thought it wouldn't last because he did the same around Christmas time but then after three nights he asked his dad to sleep with him again

I get same with my boy he’s 6 also , I just think it’s boy thing that they very hyper .

Yes I find it the same way .. I found 3-5 was better .. mine is close to 6 and shows some you mentioned .. strong willed , was following instructions until 5 but not much now .. if I look at it as an outsider - it appears “ too curious “ 🫣 ( what if I miss that instruction ? What happens if I lie ? What happens if I be people pleasing ? What happens I pretend innocent but I know I’m not .. 🥶🥶🥶🥶

Seems we are all in the same boat.. hopefully it will get better before they turn 18 🤪🤣