Gender disappointment

Hello 👋🏼 , please don’t attack me and bear in mind I feel blessed and so lucky to be pregnant and to have an other baby. I found out I will have an other boy, and as much as I’m happy that my other son will have a younger brother, I also can’t shake the feeling of disappointment. I felt so strongly it was a girl, I was soo sure, and I couldn’t help myself but I was thinking about names, looked a clothes etc etc. I planned for this to be my last pregnancy, and I feel tremendously guilty for having this feeling of disappointment when I know should just be happy about it. Has this ever happen to you? How did you deal with it? My husband could notice the disappointment on my face and he’s being very sweet to be fair, I just want to get rid of this feeling inside of me as soon as possible and just be happy.

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Honestly I was in the same boat, I felt disappointed and went home and have a cry! I also felt guilty but a couple of weeks have passed now and honestly I’m just excited to meet my baby and see my son with his brother! Your feelings are completely valid, acknowledge them but then move forward, it’ll all fade away when your boy arrives if not before I’m sure 🥰🥰

It’s totally normal to feel disappointed if you had a feeling and started to imagine a particular future. It’s a form of grief in its own way. Sit with the feelings and acknowledge why you feel this way. Then take time to think about all the positives of having two boys. The disappointment will fade and you can focus on getting to know your little guy

Girl I cried all day when I found out I was having a boy. I wasn’t even happy about the pregnancy anymore lmao, I felt so much guilt about how unhappy I was. But now I’m so happy and excited to have my son. It’s hard when you spend so long painting a picture and it doesn’t turn out that way. Also remember we’re riddled with hormones too so that doesn’t help.

I’m having my 1st and felt so disappointed when I 1st found it was a boy. Again I felt certain I would have a girl and kept saying she in early stages of pregnancy. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to adjust to the news x

Thank you all!! It’s reassuring to see I’m not the only one!! I felt so weird and thought something was wrong with me..I’ll just give me a time ❤️❤️ thank you 🫶🏽

Oh yes I had the same I now have 3 boys I was convinced it was a girl and I was devastated I was also finding it hard to come to terms with the pregnancy anyway but honestly I gave myself a couple of days and then I was over it. I know what I’m doing with boys and felt that actually was a blessing as my two already could relate to him just give yourself time

I was the same but honestly when he turned up he had been the best thing to ever happen to me. It's ok to feel this way it doesn't mean we love them any less