Resentful of husband going on weight loss shots

My husband always loses weight fast than me. You lose faster when you have more to lose. Their metabolisms also work differently. We can be on the exact same diet, doing the exact same workouts and he will still lose twice as fast as me. The way you are doing it is a way that will likely be much more successful in *keeping* the weight off. Try to frame it in that light to yourself. And remember any loss is a win for someone who needs to lose weight :)

First off I commend you for being dedicated and taking care of yourself in this way, even if you don't see the results you want right away! When it comes to health, it should never be looked at as competitive, you should be celebrating eachothers wins as both of your journeys are going to look very different! Also, he is on shots. You are actually working on your physical strength and endurance. He is simply losing weight. Two very different things. Hopefully with as rapidly as he is losing, he is taking some motivation from you on also working out alongside it so he doesn't struggle with the aftermath of that type of rapid weight loss. What you are doing is the healthiest and most long lasting way to lose and keep the weight off. Shots can come with side effects and losing weight that easily doesn't teach you long lasting ways to be healthy and keep it off. What you are doing does. Reminding yourself of these things can hopefully keep you motivated. Also what you are putting into your body matter too.

You are gaining muscle and he is not. This is CRAZY important because muscle tone supports your body and increases metabolism. In the long run, you're body is gonna look better AND work better. <3 never stop trying.

Guys can literally workout one day and skip dessert one night and lose 5 lbs they are annoying lol

He’s only been on it for two weeks and naturally on any diet you lose more the first week. I would not even compare as men lose weight differently and he has more to lose. Have both of you changed your diet because even though he’s taking injections that still needs to change. I’ve been on it since Jan and I’ve probably lost on average of 2lb per week which I could have done without except it’s consistent weight loss instead of yoying when stressed. Basically there is nothing to stop you from aiming to lose 2lb per week.

I feel you so hard in this on so many levels. First my husband will lazily workout and eat the same diet as me and lose weight so much faster. I'm down 20lbs and he is down almost 50 after 8 months 🤦🏻‍♀️ Second, my SIL and I have been each other's weight loss buddies since she had her twins. About 6 months ago she got put on Zepbound for her cholesterol issues and has lost 45lbs. I'm so happy for her but also super irritated that I'm over here working the hardest and losing the least amount of weight. I just try to be proud of myself for being healthy and hope the weight loss comes eventually. 🫶🏻

My husband has decided to cut while I’m pregnant lmao. In his defense he decided to do it mostly to support me, because I’ve had to watch what I eat a lot more this pregnancy because I was gaining really fast at the beginning. When one of us eats like shit we both do, and when we both eat healthy it’s a lot easier. But he still definitely likes to tell me how he’s been cutting for 3 days and is already down 5 lbs or whatever, while I’m watching the scale climb 💀 we’ve been being disciplined for a few weeks now and he’s still losing, the best I can say is I’m gaining in a more controlled way. Being a woman is hard

@Calandria omg lol. My husband ate a lot with me pregnant and we enjoyed that time 😂

Did you change your diet at all? Or are you just doing Pilates?

Just go to your doctor and get a prescription for yourself too. You can also get it from weight watchers.

@Brittany trying to eat better

I would try to eat in a calorie deficit. That is the only way you will lose weight. You can workout 7 days a week, but if you’re not a calories deficit the weight won’t come off.

Track your calories and/or macros. Weight is lost in the kitchen and not in the gym. The medicine is helping your husband, but you're working on weight loss without medical help.

You can try intermittent fasting. That's what I'm doing and I've lost 5 lbs in a week.

I have advice that will change ur life. It’s saved me. I went from 210 to 164 in a couple of months. All I did was fast. I fasted and I don’t drink no soda at all. I stood true to my fasting and never cheated. I downloaded this app that I was able to list all my meals it set alarms for my fasting time and all of this weight I lost was done with no exercise I also ended up getting pregnant just recently from finally being healthy again here’s the app try it out I promise it’s amazing and free! https://apps.apple.com/app/id1467720176

@Amanda Fasting to lose weight like that is called disordered eating. It's dangerous to lose weight that quickly and even harder to keep it off for an extended period of time. Sure, it works, until you rebound or your body quits functioning properly because you're not feeding it. Most of us dont want to go through life being tired, hungry, and miserable. Lifestyle changes will give you lasting results. No exercise and little food is the best recipe depression, add in a little sleep problem, and now you've got anxiety, too.

@Keylii no honey it’s not. My doctor recommended it. I did it very healthily I only faster on my designated fasting times I started small then gradually went longer. It’s called intermittent fasting. Google it.

Please don’t make assumptions without research.

Also it’s a lifestyle change not just something to do for fun. Here’s your research. https://youtu.be/-hSERcBUsGY?si=m_WnmiN7bUa4IChX

@Amanda not everything on youtube is true. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10589984/#:~:text=Meaning%20that%20adding%20intermittent%20fasting,produce%20such%20as%20food%20cravings. It was recommended to you by a health professional, which makes it a little different than you trying to prescribe it to someone else.

@Keylii once again my doctor suggested it. Please just leave me alone your opinion is not welcomed. Thank you!

I'll just say this - do whatever is sustainable for you, OP. The reason most diets fail is because they are not sustainable in the long term. The reason IF works for some is because it puts you in a caloric deficit and most people don't realize that. You can be in a deficit without fasting. A deficit is how you lose weight. Calculate your TDEE. Deduct about 200 kcals for a light deficit. There are plenty of apps and groups to help on this journey and it is science backed. Caloric deficit = weight loss. You just have to be diligent about tracking everything. Eventually you will get an eye for portions and won't have to track as much or at all.

I just want to point out to everyone that she didn’t actually ask for advice on how to lose weight. She asked for advice on how to cope with her resentful feelings toward her husband’s weight loss journey being different from her own.

I would just do what I feel I need to do to lose weight, whichever way works and is most effective for my body, for example my hubby seen the doctor and is getting help that way and I bought myself a Pilates reformer , just do you 💐

Like a few others said, you should try to reframe your thoughts. You and husband are not in a race against each other (you're not competing) but rather are running alongside each other (you're a team) and the actual enemy is poor health (obesity, weak joints, poor heart health, diabetes, high blood pressure etc etc). You have your own journeys but are sharing the same goal. Maybe pick a simple joint activity you purposefully do together that will bond your fitness/health journeys - e.g. go for a long walk together, weight train together or get in the kitchen and cook one healthy meal together per week. Make it playful and hands on with each other 🤗