Something heavy on my heart

I'm sorry for your loss and the insensitivity of your MIL. I say you should have a talk with your husband about what you heard/hear and how you feel about it. The fact that she constantly disrespects both of you in y'all's home is wild. It seems like the only one having it easy is her. Like how can you be a freeloader and then have the audacity to talk down on someone that made life better for you?!

I am so sorry. There’s not much to say about the loss of a parent, I lost my dad almost 4 years ago and still miss him every day. The audacity of ‘owning’ what she said is wild and disrespectful. I would speak to your husband and tell him you can’t grieve with her there, I know I wouldn’t be able to! If you need to talk please message me x

@Kerry my husband put her on a flight home a few days later. She’s officially out of our lives. My husband refuses to speak to her again.

@Kenosha she doesn’t appreciate anything good anyone does for her because she has never had anyone do what I did for her and feels like I just did it to look good in her eyes or to suck up to her. All she does for a living is speak ill about people. She’s miserable in her life and it makes her feel good when she breaks others down. It makes her forget about her sad life for a minute. I have met horrible people before but what she did and said in my home for 3 months before we kicked her out, was something next level. I trusted her with my toddlers. She claimed to love them so much but she spoke so much nonsense about them. She was their only granny left after my mom died and I’m okay with them not having a granny because she is too toxic to be in their lives.

So sorry for your loss. What a horrible woman, that’s awful. She sounds bitter and jealous. Did you mention it to your husband or your MIL?!

I’m so sorry for your loss! And honestly I’d be so glad I walked in on that conversation. She would literally NEVER get to be around my children. I wouldn’t allow anyone who disrespects me or thinks so low of me around a child I created. She doesn’t deserve that privilege.

@Emma she is a very bitter woman. She always made comments about how “she gets served on a silver platter” and she didn’t have the luxury of having a husband who did so much for her so why must I be so lucky. Instead of being proud of who her son is to me, she felt that it wasn’t fair.

@Emma yeah when I told my husband about the conversations I overheard, he confronted her about it and she said she wasn’t lying about anything and I don’t need to cry every day because my mom died. She called me multiple times a victim because I couldn’t function after my mom passed 💔 I was alone at home her with two toddlers, while my husband was working. Instead of helping me with the kids after I got the news, she locked herself in her room and left me to deal with my emotions and the kids. To top it all off, she called me a bad mom for not switching off my emotions around my kids. I just couldn’t keep the tears back 💔 and I couldn’t just leave my kids alone in the house to deal with myself so they unfortunately saw me crying a lot 💔 I feel so much guilt for that because they didn’t understand what was happening.

@Fel thank you 🌸 I always knew she didn’t like me and that she was speaking badly about me behind my back but I didn’t have the proof. One gift my mom left me when she passed, was to make sure for me to catch her in the act. I can’t get her ugly laughing out of my head! She was actually so happy that I was in pain. She will never see my children ever again. My husband wrote her off and he said he will never speak to her again.

@Kelly-Jane I’m literally SO glad to hear that your husband had your back in that. He’s a good man. Cause she definitely doesn’t deserve to even look at any child that you made. What a miserable bitch

@Fel she just uses people. Three months before my mom passed, I offered for both my mom and her to fly over and live with us, for a better life. My mom was already very sick so she declined but my mother in law accepted since it would help her a lot to not worry about finances anymore, my husband and I would look after her. She had a boyfriend at the time who she was having issues with because he didn’t want to marry her but he lived with her. This is the same man she had an affair on my husbands father with, and the same man that was still sleeping with his ex wife. I truly believe she only accepted my offer to move to us, to upset him and make him feel the loss of her. I feel this was the plan because she never told him she’s moving here, she only told him she’s helping us out for a few months. This woman is now married! As soon as we kicked her out, and she went back home, the man proposed and soon after they got married. She got what she wanted and hurt me so I could kick her out.

@Kelly-Jane she sounds like a toxic ass narcissist

@Fel that’s still being polite. I feel sorry for her actually. Imagine wanting to be married to a man that only had you as a side chick for over 30 years and never claimed you. He only came over for one thing. These are grown people in their 60s. She’s pathetic but I’m honestly struggling to move past it. She made my grief 10000x harder and more painful.

@Kelly-Jane honestly o don’t think you should give her that power over you, because I’m sure that’s what she wants. Like you said, she’s pathetic. If talking shit and gossiping about someone who is mourning the loss of their literal fucking parent is what she does to feel better about herself it says ALOTz it really just shows that she’s a jealous spiteful person and I wouldn’t give two shits what someone like that says. I would be basking in the fact that she now has no one but her husband who clearly only is using her. And that’s her karma

@Kelly-Jane let what she said roll off of you and know that your mom probably helped you to realize who this woman really is and had a part in getting her out of your life whether she’s here physically or not.

@Fel I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. You’re spot on. I need to stop giving her that power over me. I know it gives her great joy. I’ve always dreamed of having a good relationship with my in laws one day but I’m okay that it didn’t turn out that way.

@Kelly-Jane I’m sending so much healing energy your way 💕 and I hope you know your mom will always be with you no matter what

@Kelly-Jane omg girl I totally get that. I had thought the same but my MIL talks shit about me too lol to my husband at that. But really you have more power over her than she does you.

@Fel you’re the sweetest, I appreciate this so much 🩷🩷🩷

@Fel it’s honestly just jealousy and the fact that they lack good things she sees in your marriage, in her own marriage perhaps

@Kelly-Jane I honestly think so too, plus you’re probably a billion times better looking than her so she’s bitter about that too 😂

@Kelly-Jane also omg your boys are just soooo cuteeee 😍

@Kelly-Jane condolences for the loss of your mother and I’m so glad to read that your husband had your back and got rid of that evil witch! 👏🏽 What an awful thing to say to about your mum 1 day after she passed! Girl you are a better person than me because if I had overheard that after my mum had died I would have crashed out, and she would have got her ass beat, 60yo or not 😮‍💨 It sounds like a grief counsellor would help you lots, not only to navigate your grief about your mum, but also the aftermath and the feelings surrounding your MIL too as she has no doubt exacerbated your loss with her disgusting behaviour. Try and forget the evil bitch, she is the one who has lost out. I wish you well 🫶🏽

@Neena literally same. She would have for sure caught a 4 piece combo 😂 extra gravy on that ass lmao

Get that woman’s ill will and dark energy away from you.

@Kelly-Jane I think your husband needs to have a word with her as it’s his Mother

@Fel you’re really super sweet!! We should connect in the dms 🩷

@Fel thank you 🩷🩷 they look NOTHING like my mother in laws other grandkids so I think there’s some feelings about that as well. Unfortunately she is very shallow.

@Neena thank you for your sweet message 🩷 I may not have physically touched her but I BROKE her with my words! I told her exactly what I think of her and what others think of her. I told her that she’s the last person to talk about what type of woman I should be when she threw her kids away for sex. The person who slept around for a good lifestyle. That’s the person I need to “look up to”. I may not be a wife who cooks in her home but I sure as hell have a great education, amazing morals and values and I put my family FIRST! She neglected her kids but she has a nerve to tell me who I should be! Bitch please. She told the whole family how rude I was to her. She played victim by my husband and my husband said “what did you think she was going to say to you after what she heard come out of your mouth?” Then she cried saying my husband always takes my part. Uhm that’s something called marriage & loyalty. Something she can’t even spell or recognize. I agree that a grief counselor will help🤍

@Fel it took everything out of me to not touch her but I live in a very strict country and she will not be the reason I end up in jail.

@Emma he already had many words and kicked her out of our home. He cut her out of his life because she refused to apologize or admit what she did and said was wrong. She said “everyone speaks shit about everyone. It’s human nature.”

@Nikki done and dusted 🤍 she’s out of our lives.

@Kelly-Jane that’s good he’s done that, maybe time for that to happen again by the sounds of it! Hope it settles