Abortion

Hello! I had an abortion when I was 26, before kids though so not sure how different that is. Once it got started for me it was really just like a very very heavy and strong cramp like period. It was mostly heavy and painful for one evening/overnight. It's similar to pp bleeding in terms of the heaviness, like if I rolled over in my sleep I would wake up from the bleeding sensation. In terms of pain mine was managed with paracetamol and a hot water bottle. By 5pm the next day I was absolutely OK, like days 3 of me period and just needing a normal pad. I absolutely don't regret it at all, I do still think about it, I wonder what they would be like, how different my life would be but it's with a knowing that deep down my wondering is not enough to have a different life to how it is now. I have 3 wonderful girls who wouldn't be here if I had not had that abortion x

@MouThanks my lovely for sharing that and giving me your experience of it, I was so scared about doing it as I’ve just seen so many bad stories on it etc and all but you’ve put my mind at slight ease. That’s good you don’t regret it I don’t think I will as I know it’s the right decision as we have gone what if we keep and all but it just wouldn’t work for us 🫣 thank you so much for telling me your experience on this xx

I had an abortion when I was 19 my first son was only 10months old at the time and I just wasn’t ready for another child yet. I took the pill form and had bleeding with cramps. I used pain relief and a hot water bottle on my stomach and it wasn’t so bad. Good luck

@SamBless you thank you for sharing your experience, yeah I’ve got the pill form it’s come today did you take it when your partner or someone else was at home or did you just do it and deal with it with your 10 month old? Thanks my lovely x

I know it’s scary to feel like you can’t handle another child, but if you want to talk to someone who would like to lovingly try to encourage you to keep this child, please reach out. It’s not too late to continue to think on this. I once considered an abortion because i was so scared….but God opened my eyes. And i got through the difficulties and im so glad i didn’t go through with it. Im not here to judge you, but i can tell you want your baby….its just scary. Maybe we can talk about those things holding you back and other possibilities

Thanks for reaching out But myself and my husband have discussed both options and the best option is unfortunately to terminate and it’s the best option for us

You wouldn’t consider adoption? One option closes the door to possibility forever, the other may not be your first choice but it at least gives this child and a set of parents who maybe couldn’t have a child otherwise, a chance to experience love

@Janis adoption really isn't a viable or realistic alternative on my cases.

@Mou What makes it not viable or realistic? Plenty of people do it

@Janis 'in most cases'. Just because lots of people do it doesn't mean it is a good general all around advice

@Janis btw adoption currently is bad there’s a lot of babies and children waiting to even be adopted and there struggling for foster carers too and would you want a child comming to try and find you years later for you to tell them you didn’t want them :/ not nice I would rather just do the termination like me and my husband have planned as it’s the best option for us and our life and family.

It was just me at home with my son, I managed fine like I said keep on top of pain relief

Hi it’s just like a period really the pain was manageable. Don’t be scared please 💛 remember your reasons you are doing it and that will help massively. I thought about my kids I already had and it helped me so much. It’s really selfless what you are doing 🧡 You’ve got this xx

@Janis there’s too many kids in care not being adopted already

@Aimee 🍓 thank you my lovely deffo you girls have put my mind at ease I’m starting the process tommorow and was worrying about it but I’ve got to do it as it’s not fair on my 5 month old and us either 🫣 thanks lovely means alot!! 😘😘🩵🩵🩵

Hey lovely, just wanted to say I hope you are doing ok and thinking of you xx

@Aimee 🍓 hey thanks my lovely I’m ok was an upsetting weekend but getting through it thank you so much for messaging hope your ok xxxx

I’m so glad to hear you are ok! It is such a sad time but honestly I’ve never regretted it once. I think it’s ok to be sad about it but not regret your choices. You did what was right for your family and your baby and that’s the most important thing sending much love 💛

@Aimee 🍓 thank you so much :) and yeah I’m feeling alright now just getting through this bleeding stage which is horrid and no I don’t regret it as it was the right thing for me and my family 🥰 thank you for being so helpful and caring 🩵🩵🩵