Emotional distress

I'm struggling deeply with unmet emotional needs in my marriage. I agreed to this arranged marriage, despite our financial disparity, because I believed in his affection and didn't want to hurt him. Now, with a child, I feel emotionally unsupported. He doesn't offer comfort during my low moments and insists on me living with his family, which I find increasingly intrusive. I feel stuck and misunderstood. He labels my emotions as difficult, while I experience him as emotionally unavailable, more like a parental figure than a partner. This is causing me immense distress, and I'm grappling with the urge to end it all.

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I had the same story but my partner was initially sceptical. I told him we won’t be able to live together if i live with his parents. We stay away from his parents house now. Tell him the reasons without crying and rationally. Make him sit once with you and explain it to him. Please practice before explaining. Just don’t tell him that you dont like spending time with his parents.. explain why.. all the best

You’re not alone—so many moms feel this way but stay silent. Wanting emotional support isn’t being difficult, it’s being human. Motherhood often reveals cracks we didn’t see before. You deserve to feel seen, heard, and supported. Please don’t carry this alone—you matter too.

I completely agree with @Isha—you’re definitely not alone in this. A lot of men struggle to express affection, and I think it often stems from how they were raised. In my case, I actually feel more at ease when we’re staying with his parents. When it’s just the two of us, he barely speaks to me. Somehow, watching political videos on YouTube and “gaining knowledge” seems to take priority over having a real conversation. Of course, I have my share of conflicts with his parents too—no situation is perfect—but even then, I feel less isolated when they’re around. Otherwise, this ends up becoming a recurring event, discussing my feelings and expectations with him @Madhuri. Which he listens, agrees, implements for couple of days, but then again out of habit or what he continues the same behaviour again!!