Advice

Hey Mamas, I need some advice. Right now I feel like I’m not being a good mom. My mental space has been all over the place and I just haven’t been taking care of myself like I usually do. My child father “tried” to come back into my life mid last year around my birthday in July. He made it seem like his intentions were to date me again. I set expectations telling me he needs to take me on dates and do things to get us back to that point, but that never happened. When I decided to set boundaries because we was having unprotected sex he wanted to start acting funny. Long story short, I was asking for clarity that I wasn’t receiving and my counselor was like “stop trying to gain clarity… you already have your answer.” Time went by (not even long at all) and my daughter told me have a girlfriend. This is the second time he has done this to me. I sat with this frustration and hurt but I didn’t sit in it for too long. I got back up and went on about my life knowing I will NEVER give him another chance! Now the way he talks and communicate with me is very vague. He expects me to now meet him at a pick up spot to pick up and drop off our daughter during the times HE’S SUPPOSED TO HAVE HER. Now his mother stepping in. Trying to fill in where her son is lagging. This happened the last time. Literally. I just want to be left alone by them. She’s trying to help me with daycare so I can have a little break during the week. I’m trying to figure that out. But I’ve set a boundary with myself that I would not involve myself in communication like that with him again. He should have just left me alone. I was happy and thriving before he came along now I feel like giving him a chance messed me up. I usually don’t like dealing with NOBODY from my past because I grew from that but ofcourse I gave him a chance because this is my child’s father. But now it’s like I’m revealing myself from him all over again. His mom is probably stepping in because she know her son did me wrong. Basically he was having sex with me, took me on no dates, and when I finally got fed up with it I set a boundary and that’s when I seen what his intentions really were. I asked for clarity he said he’s still trying to open up. I gave him time to try but nothing never happened. I kept chasing clarity til I got tired and my counselor like stop. Then he popped up with a girlfriend. So you know he feels guilty and his mom trying to step in for his actions. It’s just I’m trying not to beat myself up for giving my child father another chance just to do the same thing. Any advice would be gladly appreciated!