Tantrums
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My son has tantrums. I think it's developmentally normal. They were worse last month when he was teething. And are worse if he's tired or hungry. I talk to him about his feelings and he knows angry, frustrated and sad. If I can see a tantrum coming I say to him "you're frustrated because...." and that seems to work for us. I also tell him if he's angry he can throw his hands down by his side and say "grrrrrr" which he does sometimes now. There are some great books for toddlers around feelings etc. Getting some of them and reading them when your little one is calm may help. Also people forget about their kids tantrums as they get older. Tantrums are normal and I'd be worried if a 2 year old didn't have tantrums at all. Don't let anyone make you think your little ones tantrums aren't normal. Im sure you're both doing great!
Oh also we pull funny pretend faces for happy, angry, tired and sad which he finds hilarious and he will then use the relevant face when he has the feeling in day to day life. We are also really silly every day with him and try to make him laugh as much as possible. It really brightens the mood. Hand puppet farting is always a winner 😂 as is the music man and playing various instruments on him (trombone on his leg, triangle on his hand). Mummy robot makes dinner now 😂
I second the post above. Tantrums are normal and it also isn’t them being naughty, toddlers have under developed brains and big feelings, and don’t know what to call them or how to process them. Acknowledging the feelings and making space for them goes a long way, though of course we have days where she’s mardy as hell and it feels like nothing works 😅 the course sounds like it could be a great resource for you both so it could be worth trying to make the time for it. And don’t listen to anyone who tries to tell you what’s normal, you are doing great.
My daughter has mini meltdowns as we like to call it! And she will hit out and scream in frustration. Which isn’t fun but she snaps out of it quickly and calms herself down so within mins it’s all done and dusted. I think it’s more how long the tantrum lasts. I work in early years and have cared for children who can’t regulate and a tantrum would last over an hour etc. have you had your 2 year check yet?
@Lauren yes had the check but they had no concerns. They just said to attend that course. I'm worried due to the self harm really (biting self and she bangs her head too at times on us/carpet floor/couch). I'd heard the course isn't very good though so to move a lot around for him.. I'm not sure if it's worth it
We get tantrums to various degrees most days fairly mild most days but we do get some monstrous ones when she is super tired or not quite herself like teething. I think it’s hard to compare as it’s really down to how they process their feelings or can’t process if you get what I mean. I think it’s pretty normal for toddlers to tantrum often and I think there’s phases where the will tantrum more due to working out boundaries we had a tantrum last night because we turned the shower off lots of foot stomping probably would of lashed out if she could of