Behaviour

I am in the same boat. I heard an interesting behavioural talk on my meditation app recently to help me stay sane and understand why she is lashing out. HALT! - she is either Hungry, Angry, feeling Lonely or is Tired... Distracting her helps, also asking her an easy question she knows the answer to or giving her options for basic things so she feels she has some control, such as which one of these toys do you want to play with or which of these t-shirts do you want to wear today etc. I hope that helps x

Hi, I don’t have advice as such. My little boy will be 3 in July and we have kick offs like this as well. He hits me and we remind him to use “kind hands” I like your advice Shay :) so thank you. When my little one kicks off come down to his level and try to just slow the pace down. Xx

Like shay I find giving them options helps. So does turning things into a game/competition or if you have to leave somewhere telling them in advance and finding a way to countdown till an agreed point. I.e when we leave the park I tell her 10 minutes before. Then 5 minutes before and for the last couple of minutes il say it's time to go but we have time for 10 more swings or a go on the climbing frame and slide and let her choose. Once that's up it's time to go, il thank her for a fun time at the park and bet I can race her to the gate! She still has her moments but it usually works 😃

My daughter is also going through similar. I think it’s partly to do with her age but also due to me having to divide my time as I now have a 4 month old to. Her speach is pretty good so she is able to communicate how she is feeling and she tells me she is feeling angry or frustrated but I remind her that she can be angry snd frustrated with out hitting and kicking. As an outlet I get her to squeeze my hands rather than hit, when we are at home as a distraction I will say shall we shake the frustration out and I pick her up by the feet (I obviously don’t shake her 😅) I then pretend to pick up the frustration and put it in the bin! It’s more of a distraction which seems to make her laugh. Doesn’t work all the time! Iv also recently started doing the ‘thinking step’ so she will go and take a minute there and then usually apologises if she’s hit ect. It’s such a testing age isn’t it. I find my daughter is worse after she’s been at nursery, I told them about her behaviour at home and they

Was shocked as she is so well behaved, polite and caring so it’s like she saves it all up and lets it out at home where she feels safe. Some Days I feel she could tantrum over anything, clothes, wrong plate/cup, she hates being told no!