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How are yall trying for or even thinking of having a second kid? How did your relationship not changed negatively since having a kid? How did the lack of sleep, alone time, self care didn't highten resentment and hurt? I'm struggling. My relationship is absolutely horrible. He is a great dad and I am a great mom, but together we are not working. Am I alone in this?

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In the same boat, he is great and takes care of me but sometimes I just see the worst of everything and lack of attention when I want it, I think my hormones are all over the place and I am being trying to get pregnant since my boy became 1 but sometimes I try everything to be romantic and others I do not want him close at all, and that is not working on my favor, I think sometimes I miss my window just because I do not feel the connection

Me and my husband were in the same place, it took a while for us to finally have a better relationship. It wasn’t until he was 9 months that things started to get better and now it’s been incredibly great! The only thing I can think of is, we finally had a breaking point we’re it took the both of us yelling In a car to hear each other’s side of the story and where we were both coming from, iv learned it’s very important to not assume. Just know he’s putting effort just as much as you, it’s probably hard to recognize what y’all are doing to support. Sitting and talking it all out is very important the next step we took is planned small dates with no baby. It’s definitely important to rekindle your relationship with your partner again. We all forget to live our partner under crazy and chaotic circumstances. I truly hope it helps, I’m not sure exactly where you are in your situation but I hope some of this helps.

@Gabriela then why are you trying for the second? Genuinely asking, cause I want another one as well but I'm concerned about the state of my relationship

Mom of two and trying for our 3rd one now. I'll be honest, when my first was right around this age of 16-17 months I couldn't fathom how I was going to have another child. But, it happened! Prioritizing your relationship is key. My husband's and my time is about 5 minutes in the morning to drink coffee together before the kids wake up and 5 minutes together in the evening after the kids go to sleep. We're TTC baby #3 now and we are in a very stable place.

@Krystle that’s a perfect example of making time for your husband or significant other. Just a little time goes along way.