HOW TO DEAL WITH BREAKUP
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thats what’s gonna help you not just let him go but let go of the situation and move on with your life. maybe if he sees that you’ve grown and changed he might want to give it another shot BUT move as if he’s not going to. these things are extremely difficult to navigate. it’s so hard and i 1000000% understand how you feel and where you’re coming from. start working on yourself though. do things you like or have always wanted to do. you need to heal from this too babes🫶🏽 one thing that has been a hard pill to swallow (for me and my sit) was that he was absolutely hurt and traumatized too (mainly by my reaction and actions about things) and he needed to heal as well. it’s difficult but you got this babes💕
Get into your own individual therapy to work through how to navigate this new normal. If he’s cheated multiple times and you forgave that but he can’t forgive you, he’s probably wanted to be done and you gave him a reason to. Spend time with friends and family, do things you enjoy, work on financial independence and take everything one day at a time.
Thank you @Catt and yes @Jasmine I definitely think he wanted to be done therapist said that too. She's known more. She don't think we're through. But I do. I know she's telling me focus on myself like both you ladies are saying. Thank you soooooo much Queens.
You might not be through but you should be imo. Y’all should have done couples counseling after the cheating (if you didn’t). He doesn’t respect you. And you need to work on controlling yourself when you drink or limit your drinking if that’s an area you struggle in. You need to be in a position where you can choose to walk away if necessary not where he leaves and you can’t immediately support yourself. Don’t stay “because that’s what you’re used to” “you’ve been together long” “you have kids together” or because “he pays the bills”. Stay because you both love and respect each other.
@Jasmine You're right and no that was the 1st time that EVER happened drinking I'm usually a happy drunk he even said that I've never seen you like that all the years we've been together. Yes he don't respect me I think that is truly it and it's hard pill to swallow. But your absolutely right.
I'm sorry to say but between the fact that he has cheated on you and the fact that you got drunk and hit him, you 2 sound extremely toxic for each other and are better off ending the relationship. Both of you need to go through a lot of personal growth and maturing before you are capable of having a healthy relationship with anyone. Just focus on your children and self-improvement.
being 100% honest. i understand he’s cheated but you hit him. if the roles were reversed you’d prob leave too. hitting him when you’re drunk tells me there was definitely some residual hurt from what he’s done to you maybe. things like this are hard. trust me. i have been there. i was cheated on reallllly badly during a miscarriage, whole pregnancy and PP. i wanted to beat the damn brakes off him multiple times but i knew if i did there’s absolutely no turning back. it sounds soooooo silly but when a man gets hit by a woman it really does something to them. he honestly prob doesn’t care that you tried to jump out the car, what truly affected him was being hit, even more so by you. i think you should of course take accountability for your actions. not for his sake but for yours. (lowkey be happy he didn’t press charges or return the favor. sounds messed up but these are realities) and start really reflecting on your life and changing small things little by little.