Boys moms

Then they are petty people ; I have one of each but it have tops that say boy mum and girl mum . I don’t get people like that , focus on bigger issues not because we are happy to be boy mums or girl mums

^i agree. Definitely very petty. Also some of us are built for one gender more than the other? I knew from CONCEPTION I was going to be a boy mom idk how I just knew. And I was elated when I found out I was having a boy. I understand men more, I get along with them more, and I’m very boyish myself. If I had a girl I’d raise a tom boy and there’s nothing wrong with that! But if my girl turned out to be girly I wouldn’t know what to do with her 🤷🏻‍♀️ sound like stupid reasons typing them out, but I just feel I’m built more for a boy than I am for a girl (although if I had found out I was having a girl it wouldn’t have changed anything for me) 🤍

My girl isn’t a girly girl, biggest tomboy going 🤣I was utterly convinced she was a boy as we kept her gender a secret till birth. Snap I find most women are cliquey as hell these days. She can be girly but that’s a rare thing 🙈

Can you describe what they say? What did the attacking look like?

I’ve found a lot of people associate “boy mom” with those overbearing “I’m his first love / you’ll always be second” type boy moms. I was convinced I’d have a gang of boys but my 3rd evened it out

Well, let me explain. That group of moms was talking about the bad relationship they have with their mothers-in-law, arguing that modern women don't cook or clean the house or go to work, and they expect their husbands to do everything. They "justify themselves as princesses" by saying, "I was raised this way. I don't cook or clean for any man. I'm not a slave." And I'm raising my daughters the same way. All of the mothers are girl moms, and they were okay with that. But I wasn't. I said, "We can't be such selfish women expecting a man to not only provide for his family but also come home to a mess with no food." Oh no, why did I say that? 😳 They all attacked me, saying I'm old-fashioned and that we live in a modern age where men have to do everything for their wives and treat them like queens. And they told me that I'd better raise my baby boy who's going to wait for a traditional woman in his life and those women don't exist anymore.

I once saw a comment on a tik tok a while ago of a nurse with a jar full of beads showing the babies born that were born under her care and there were more boys born so far and someone in the comment said great, more boys as if we need them, and I was just so disgusted. God forbid a boy be born 🙄😑 I have friends who are set on having girls as if they can choose and at this point I’m starting to think people want a girl for the aesthetic and that’s WEIRD ☺️

Describing them selves as princesses is pathetic for grown ass women . Far from old fashioned , I am on maternity on Tuesday and have been since last July when school broke up for summer and yes I have done the majority but purely because I am home more but my partner has pulled his weight too especially after I had our boy as I was physically not able to do much till we got to four weeks old . A man can still treat his wife as a queen by appreciating what she does in the house . My boy will be raised to help out just like his older sister and he has the perfect dad to help in that role as well as me . They sound like overgrown toddlers saying they are refusing to support their household 😐🤦‍♀️

My partner is currently cooking our tea after he’s been at work because he knows I have had a terrible day with our girl and her sass but I have prepped our tea for tomorrow earlier as it’s one that needs overnight cooking for the first stage 😬 team work all the way in this house

Plus I said I am happy to be a boy mom and I will be happy when my son grow up and get married with a good woman that understands the give and take. While my son goes outside to make money to provide for his wife and kids, at least she can cook for him. And I am not saying that because I will not teach my son how to cook, I am just saying it because a man loves when a woman cooks for him. Same way my son will show her that he loves her providing for her, she can cook to show love as well.

😅 @Ash I don’t understand how women can think that we don’t need men. We need men. Men need women as well.

What the hell?? Those women sound so cringe I wouldn’t want anything to do with them anyway 😂. Right now, my partner has pulled most of the weight (this pregnancy has been hard, and I’ve spent most of it bed ridden/sick) as he doesn’t work right now, he’s took care of our 30kg dog because I can’t (walks, pulls on lead) he’s cleaned when I physically can’t move. But see when he goes back to work? I will be pulling most of the weight in the house (cleaning, cooking) that doesn’t mean he can’t cook when he’s off work, or clean when he’s off work. But he’s out making me and our son money? Why would I tben make him come home to a messy house and no food on the table? It doesn’t make me a slave, that’s by choice. He wouldn’t complain if he did come home to that, but it’s 50/50 in my eyes

@Leslie Ah I see. Seems this was not just about boy or girls moms but gender roles, societal expectations, in-laws, independence, values, etc. I’m going to venture to say that this group or group of people sway to one extreme side- (just as there are those who believe that men should expect women to do everything) and I would take everything with a grain of salt. Listen, I had my baby at 48- first time mom with a boy (lots of fertility issues, did IVF with donor eggs) and I’m just happy to be a Mom to this wonderful baby. I will raise him like I would raise a boy or girl-to be kind, to be independent, to be self-sufficient (every person should know how to clean, laundry, cook, grocery shop, balance their budget, etc), to never HAVE to depend on anyone financially, physically, etc. BUT develop relationships that are healthy and mutually respectful. That’s all I can really do. Don’t let strangers take away your joy

Sounds like you and your son need a new friend group. To demand so much with what for the man? And that’s not to say the woman should do everything either. A shared household is shared responsibility and should be give/take. Not just work for me, cook for me, clean for me. Like what? My mind is blown right now. I might be old fashioned that’s okay by me. But all my kids will be taught the same necessary skills to survive and be in a liveable state - like you know to be able to cook, help with the housework etc. I’d feel like I’m setting my kids up to fail with that kind of mentality. There’s too many scenarios in this day and age to not be able to fend for oneself. I have 2 boys and a girl. I love cooking, it’s one of the ways I show love (it’s not the same for everyone and that’s ok). My boys love food and also helping me in the kitchen.

Likewise, if I have a daughter in the future, I'll be happy! But I don't think I'll raise her that way. I know girl moms who raise their daughters telling them that when they get married, they should marry a man who has money; it doesn't matter If they don't love that man, money is more important. That's why, now that I'm a boy mom, I empathize with men more than before, and I don't agree that a woman can't do or show love for her man and only thinks about receiving and not giving anything.

I personally can’t imagine having a girl now that I have a boy. Am I exhausted? Sure. Is he always on the move and getting more adventurous every day and taking years from my life? Yes but I cannot picture not having my little boy! Girls scare me honestly. 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

People are just mean!!! I was a boy mom for 4 years before we had our little girl (she’ll be 3 months on the 12th) and i absolutely love it! Granted most of the time the clothes weren’t as cute but that’s okay! You just gotta embrace it and make the most of it! And screw what everyone else says!!! I love my boy he is the biggest mamas boy. Granted I will say now being a mom of both is just as amazing!

I won’t say I’m the perfect house wife though. My fiancé goes to work 12 hour days but 9/10 i have dinner waiting for him when he gets home. That 1/10th is days where i am stopping myself from pulling out my hair😅 but my house sure isn’t spotless heck it’s probably more than lived in😅 but we are getting there slowly but surely with a wild toddler and a new baby it’s been rough over here. But my man definitely pulls his weight along with going to work especially on days where i need him to pick up a little more of my slack. I saw a video once where it was a guy talking about a healthy relationship and the guy gets home from work and he’ll tell him wife I’ve got 20% and she’d say okay I’ll pick up the 80% basically saying that it’s not 50/50 it could be whatever you have to give at that time. So if i only have 30% my man would pick up the 70% and it just stuck with me

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ , your comment is absolutely pointless why bring down the other gender.. I dont think this post was about which gender you would of preferred to have smh.

I think it’s projection from their relationships with men honestly. I never wanted a girl Ive always wanted boys based on my personality itself. Lol im very tomboyish and rough, always play fighting and things . My associates that do have girls always say they hate” boy moms ”boy moms are always coddling their sons” a woman cant raise a man “ ect ect and I dish it right back to them 🤷🏽‍♀️ like the gender of your kid doesn’t define you. How you raise them do