Is this the norm after a baby?

My husband and I had our first baby in June 2024, he is 10 months old. Obviously since having him our time together has been sacrificed and we don’t have a lot of family support around us for the ‘odd night off or date night’ etc; so whatever we do together as a couple baby is there - which I’m okay with. We are becoming so distant, we’re more like friends living together, there’s nothing sexual really and when there is I feel so burnt out / tired from being mum all day I quite frankly can’t be bothered and would rather go to sleep. I keep telling him I feel like I can’t / don’t know how to be mum and wife and can only be mum at the moment. I have no oomph or desire to be close with my husband anymore - is this normal?? Should this feeling have passed by now as baby is almost 1, am I still adjusting? I don’t know if it may be the start to the end of our marriage🙁

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I feel like I’m in the same boat. Also had our little girl in June.

Absolutely normal!! My smallest is 15 months and I still have no desire. It's exhausting. It's a short period of time. It will come back if you still love eachother xx

It is normal but you both have to work at your marriage to make it what you want it to look like. The number of times I’ve felt like I can’t be bothered but I’ve had to push myself to make time to have quality time with my husband. It is really hard, I completely get it because we don’t have family around to help either so our only time alone is had when our children go to sleep. I definitely still have days when I say to my husband that I just want some time to unwind alone but you have to balance it. Having your first child is a time of a lot of adjustment and figuring out what your marriage looks like with an extra person in the mix and learning to still enjoy each other in other ways. Speak to your husband about how you’re feeling because this will only be the end of your marriage if you both let it be. Date night can, for now, be some nice at home ideas. You can try swapping who arranges the date weekly and try movie nights, night just for talking, picnic, pottery. All the best ❤️

Totally normal. My husband and I have just accepted we’re in the busiest time of our lives with a young family / growing careers etc. and there will be time for us again in the future, just not right now. But we’ve had this discussion and are both on the same page with it.