Twin advice 10 months

Surviving postpartum with twins advice? Finding it so taxing physically mentally emotionally you name it. Their our first and our relationship (been together 3 years known each other 6) despite planning these children is suffering. I think we both have PPD, and although our mothers help out a weekend here or there we do the leg work daily. Not sure how much I can go on, doctors useless and I’m sick of hearing ‘I don’t know how you do it’m Fighting them to sleep daily, financial worries and generally feeling grief for our old life is chipping away at us

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I'm 9 months postpartum with my twins and could have written this myself !

Keep your head up mama, I promise you it gets better! Honestly that first year was EXTREMLY difficult I’ll be honest I didn’t have much support from my husband but my mum was incredible. I still struggled. A lot. The compliments from strangers wear thin when your reality seems very far from what people imagine. My advice - mix with twin mums if you can. It will keep you sane knowing you aren’t alone. Feel free to dm me ❤️

Me personally just tell myself that I just have to keep going. My twins weren't necessarily planned, but I refused to give them the same childhood I had. It's gotten better now that they are 15 months but it's still hard. I try to take them out more and also do things with out them too.

Thank you for seeing me! I think I really assumed 9 months in we’d be managing a lot better but it’s still like, so rough. I hate wishing time away, but I also couldn’t even remember how old I was the other day. The overstimulation is just.. and it’s sad because I love them so much and feel bad at how hard I find parenting

Yes I have joined a twin mum group which was super affirming

For me personally the overstimulation never stopped but I find ways to manage it now. There is absolutely no guilt or blame in finding parenting hard. They say the hardest transition is 0-1 as a first time twin mum that 0-2 is something else. No one can prepare you. I promise you before you know it life will be much easier to manage. Each hurdle passes

I found even with my singleton that the 8-11 month post partum period is grossly forgotten about and underestimated in terms of just how bloody hard it is. Like oh not only do I not have my shit together yet I am actually more exhausted and mentally fragile than even newborn stage. Why doesn't it get talked about more?!

I was literally told it gets easier 😳😳😳.. when does it I wonder lol

I have a 3 year old and almost 2 year old twins... so far I'd say 13-17 months was a little better. It's a shitshow right now but I also believe based on singleton that 26-30 months will be a little happy phase. All goes to balls again at 3 Yr old though.