Seeing quite a few Mother's Day posts now (understandable) and just want to say that I hope we have all communicated what we would like to our significant others to get us or do for us and are not expecting them to read our mind.

Love this post! ❤️ mothers days seems to bring out a lot of emotions in mom’s and a lot of it is preventable if we don’t have unrealistic expectations, constant comparing, but if we have good communication and self love the day is ours to enjoy .

We have already celebrated our Mother’s Day in the UK in March xx

I’d rather tell my man what I want and he came through because he knew, than sit around feeling sorry for myself because he did nothing because he didn’t know of my expectations in the first place. I think I’ve asked him 3 times already in the last couple weeks “have you booked something? Make sure you book somewhere nice for Mothers Day” and I do that every year 😂 and today he’s told me yep bookings made for 6.30. I’m a happy gal 👌🏼 Some women will say “well that takes the surprise out of it” yeah, a lil. But I wanna secure the day and make sure it goes the way I want and not sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. I truly wish that everyone has the Happy Mothers Day they are so deserving of. And for the mums who’ve already celebrated, I hope it went the way you wanted. Same for Valentines.

I've told my partner so many times I don't want anything a card and a hug will do, but he is insistent on getting me something, which I will appreciate. I am a bit bummed he has to work until 2 pm, on Sunday, but I totally understand it's a new job, we will celebrate when he gets home I'll get to have a nice morning with my son and since it's meant to be raining might get to do my favourite snuggle up and watch a movie.

I have no expectations personally. My husband is working noon to midnight that day but I know he'll usually get me a gift or flowers at least

My partner knows what I would like but still doesn't get me anything, so I was surprised when I got a little Lego set the other day. No celebration, no card, not even wrapped, but still. He is away on Mothers Day, so he gave it to me early. Not looking forward to Sunday, to be honest.

@Michelle @Kellie YES and yes!!👏🏽🥳💞 and I hope that peace of mind from having communicated your needs makes you enjoy your day even more. x

@Justina And I hope you enjoyed your day and were treated really well!🤗 x

@Vee yes I did . Little things make me happy . My man cooked for the day and bought me a Burberry handbag

@Meg That's one thoughtful partner you have there! Really happy for you and hope the gift only adds to an already wonderful day with your son!😊 x

@Melissa Happy for you that he can still care to get you something to make you feel special on the day! x

@Hannah Its not so much what our significant others get us but about how we make ourselves feel on the day. You could tale yourself out to get your nails and hair done? and get yourself a cute little dress, dress up, take pictures and you and your little one could also make a homemade card for you to make it extra special. and even snuggle up and watch a movie like Meg.😊 Try to go out of your way to make yourself smile, make yourself happy and take time to appreciate what a great mom you are because God knows motherhood is alot of work! x

My love language is gift giving and to me, it’s less about the gift itself and more about the thought put into the gift. Honestly the gift is absolutely meaningless if I have to baby you through the whole process and spell out exactly what you should do for me. It makes me feel like you must not really know me or care for me enough to actually put effort into doing something nice for me. Because ladies be so honest, does your man have to tell you exactly what you need to do for him for any holidays celebrating him? I’m willing to bet no. That being said, if you need that level of control to feel good and it works for your relationship and you don’t mind telling him what to do for you, by all means do so. But I’m commenting here to say I think it’s perfectly reasonable to not want to do this with the person who is supposed to love you and know you more than anyone in the world.

@Vee, I would love to do that, but we can't afford for me to go out. Especially since we have 2 bills and a medical appointment eating up funds this week. I could snuggle on the couch with my son and watch a movie, though 😊

@Melanie, I completely agree. Knowing exactly what I'm getting because I picked it out myself and was most likely there when it was bought isn't quite the same as being surprised with something you said you wanted weeks or months ago and he just remembered. I have a ring I picked out and adore, but it's not the same as the necklace he picked out for me and surprised me with. Him putting in effort makes me feel special, not him paying me for my effort.

@Melanie If you'd seen the number of posts after Mothers Day in the UK that I had seen and seen how many women were complaining, underwhelmed, quite upset and had resentment building up because their partners didnt do what they were imagining they would do, then you would understand where I was coming from with this post. "If you need that level of control to feel good..." what? Its great if your husband can do that but not everyone has that character trait. I was suggesting giving hints to those with significant others who may not be great with all of that. Nothing to do with controlling anything but just so everyone is happier at the end of the day

@Vee yes even if they are gas station flowers bought at 1am 😅

We are having a day out

I agree to some extent, especially if it's something super specific. But I also would love to just feel loved because he came up with something of his own, just like I do for every single other holiday, and not because I gave him a list of things 🫠🫠

My husband is working that day so I’ll be home with my babies

@Vee for a lot of people it does have to do with control. Like I said, it’s cool if it works for your relationship and if you’re happy with it that’s all that matters. But I feel like this post is lowering our already very low bar for men to do the bare minimum. Hinting at things you may want is not the same thing as outright spelling it out, I agree. And on that same note, you cannot NOT tell them what you want and then get upset when they make a genuine effort and deliver something you just don’t like. So I do agree there.

I get what you’re saying but I also think it’s not that hard to come up with something to make your partner feel appreciated. Like if you know they like jewelry, get jewelry. If they like flowers, get flowers. Women shouldn’t have to tell their partners that they want to feel appreciated.

Good point !

Hence why I ordered my own gift and told him he got me ____ for Mother’s Day 😊

It’s really important to me that if we are spending the money on gifts on ourselves, they should be exactly what we each want. I have received many gifts that needed returning lol

It’s so sad to see how many moms make this day stressful for themselves and only focus on gifts. Enjoy the day with your family and be grateful you have one 💛

Yep. I told hubs exactly what I wanted: a massage, haircut, pedicure. This isn’t normally my style but after pregnancy and the first four months I really want someone else to take care of me and not worry about other people’s needs for a few hours. My dad had wanted to plan a big family Mother’s Day meal at their house for all the moms and although I appreciate the thought it is not at all what I want right now. I’d most likely end up tending to baby while other people eat and then getting cold food that doesn’t fit my diet even though I’ve told them a million times no dairy for the baby’s tummy. Glad I communicated and so looking forward to me time. 💆🏻‍♀️

@Grace @Victoria~ @Melanie I understand what you're saying and understand how gifts feel better where one feels there has been lots of thought put into it and totally agree with that when it has to do with Christmas, Valentines Day, Birthdays and other special days but thought that since Mothers Day is for Mothers and some moms have very specific things they want and a way they would like to recoup, to feel good and enjoy themselves to feel special and maybe just have a day off, surely there should be nothing wrong with hinting preferences of what will make that day more special for you right?🤷🏽‍♀️ The same high standard applies on other special days, and even this one, but I meant specifically for Mothers Day one should be able to hint without being made to seem controlling. I don't believe its lowering any bar because the bar certainly isnt low here and I would never recommend anyone lowering theirs but just to make sure everyone is happy on Mothers day. x

@Vee, remembering what someone you love likes isn't a "character trait". What?

@Hannah Being considerate and thoughtful are character traits. And thats what I am referring to. Having the ability to pick out well thought out gifts that that person actually really needs is not something that everyone can easily do..

@Vee, yes, those are character traits, but why would anyone be with someone who isn't considerate or thoughtful. Why are we saying that not everyone has those traits, so take more on and get your own gifts instead of, know your worth, and don't settle for someone who isn't considerate or thoughtful. Like, I really don't think it's too much to ask that my partner knows what I like and puts effort into making me feel special. It's beyond sad that we have to do all the work for everyone to be happy on a day designed to celebrate US. I do understand this post, and your heart is in the right place.