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This is actually a thing that boomer grandparents aren’t nearly as involved in their grandchildren’s lives as their parents were in ours. The first generation to leave their kids worse off than they were…just saying. And yes obviously this is generalizing and there are lots of great grandparents out there. My kids have very loving grandparents (but 2 of 3 live 8 hours away) and they’re not really part of our “village” although they love spending time with the kids.
My MIL is a boomer. She’s very involved. She lives with us now. My dad is a silent generation and has never been really involved.
My grandparents are boomers my parents are GenX My grandparents were out of state and it was just my brother and I for most our youth so my grandparents did it big whenever they had us But idk what it was like to have the close grandparent experience where we were obsessed with each other lmao because we could not stand my maternal grandma who lived close to us just nothing about her was pleasant But my GenX parents live really close to me see the kids weekly and my grandma I couldn’t stand growing up has a great relationship with my daughter and they usually spend Wednesdays and Fridays together My dad used to piss me off when we first moved back because he wanted no parts of baby he didn’t want to change diapers or clean up pee or shit “these aren’t my babies, i already had mine” but now he picks up my daughter for boujie donuts all the time
My parents are super involved, my toddler loves going to grandma's house and they have been taking him every other weekend lately. I find it so sad that so many boomers just seem so bitter towards their children and grandchildren. And your mom's perception of aging is so sad as well.
my parents live 10 hrs away and have seen my 19 month old son 2 times in person. My in laws are an hr away and have babysat for a few hours 4 times but usually try to come visit every few weeks
When i had my first my mom who lived 30 minutes away didn't come and visit for 6 weeks. She came up so I could get my hair cut. She insisted on going with me instead of staying at the house. I thought that wasn't a super great idea since it was 80° out but she said shed just walk around. She stormed into my appt halfway through and said "I HAVE to be back for a DANCe! I didn't KNOW it would take this long!" It had been 45 minutes. So I left the salon with a rough cut and WET hair. She didn't come back till my first born was 6 months old. Meanwhile my dad lives farther away and had never once asked how my kids are, what they like, what their interests are. Nothing.
My boomer mom is loving and involved. My boomer in-laws are the most selfish people you’ve ever met in your life 🫠
I could have written this myself. Mine treat my child as an afterthought. My Lo has never been watched by them and never any offers. When she was born, they got her 1 outfit and she hasn’t received anything since. Actually my dad has never bought her anything and she’s 2 now. They expect weekly videos and pictures, but want nothing to do with her. However, when my cousin’s kid was born, they bought a whole play centre for his kid and always buy toys for her for her birthday and Christmas. Apparently my child doesn’t need it. They are not good grandparents imo. I talk to them maybe 1x a month now on the phone. They have seen my lo maybe 3x in her lifetime.
My parents are boomers. I’m a millennial. Growing up, I spent almost every weekend at grandma’s. She was awesome. She did everything for me and was so loving and present. She adored me and all her grandkids.
When I think about the amount of relief and unlimited childcare my grandma offered and that my parents received, man…. Parenting was so easy for them. My parents struggled in their marriage and my grandma always took me so they could work through their problems.
@Jadie same, only literally my parents never have asked for pictures of my kids. Never call or text them. My grandparents would call me and talk to me like once a month after the age of 3. They could go a full year without asking about them and not notice.
Yeah my kids don’t really have involved Gparents besides giving them money for Chinese new year and birthdays but they get heaps of family interaction through my sisters, their kids, my friends and their kids so I don’t rely dwell on the lack of communication from the Gparents only because they are socialised and have family/village in other ways. My sister rings my teens every couple days for a chat so they have other adults in their life besides me and Dad that they can go to/vent to and I’m happy for that.
I think my mil is probably as involved as my grandparents were. Or she will be once retires. My parents are less involved but there are some other circumstances involved like health issues. They were much more involved with my oldest when he was little vs my younger two
Uninvolved Gen X grandparents over here
Im adopted by interracial boomers. Awful parents good people so far amazing grandparents… but to be fair they never experienced babyhood. My bio dad is not a boomer but is very affectionate with all his grandkids.