Solo birthing, info. and connections
So ive recently have had to break up with my fiancé and move in with my parents. I’m about to turn 22yo and am 28w pregnant with my first child. Now I am starting to look into my birth and making a plan.
I’m thinking I may have/should birth alone without a coach. Many family members wouldn’t be able to be supportive for various reasons. While my ex-fiancé wants to be there and I’m attempting to stay positive and have polite communication I feel I wouldn’t be able to handle him being there and that it may hurt more than help. Duals are not rely and option as I’m unsure how much but Ik it’s unaffordable and as I live in the u.s. not much else is excisable. I currently don’t have any close friends. Ik it will be hard af but I feel it may be the best option.
I’ve been reading my what to expect when expecting book and looking for articles and podcasts, but I’m hoping someone has some information or has ideas of where to find it. A lot of the information I find has been about having a partner, a military partner, or dula. Or on complete opposite where there is no dr and in the middle of mountains. I’m trying to find some support and info. on more my situation.
Anyone who has ideas, found useful information, or have been in similar situation please reach out.
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Look into hypnobirthing and start practicing and preparing for birth. Your mindset will be the biggest thing especially when you don’t have support. I am 2 weeks away from my due date, it’ll just be my son and my mum in the delivery room. I’ve done a lot of preparation mentally and physically for birth. I wish circumstances were different and I felt comfortable enough having my ex in the delivery room but alas.
Following because I’m in the exact same boat! I’m 28 weeks pregnant first time mom and my boyfriend broke up with me as soon as we found out I was pregnant. Personally, I’ve begun to think about what will make me the least stressed out. I have already informed my ex he will not be present for the birth as I need to take care of me first. Once she is born and everything is settled he can come see our baby after. I also have a complicated family and have told my mom already she will not be present in the delivery room. I would double check with your insurance to see what they will or won’t cover. I just found out at my last ultrasound appointment that my insurance will cover a dula in addition to the doctors but they don’t advertise it so I had know idea about it until now. If that’s the case I think I’m opting for a dula and me in the delivery room. Wishing you luck!