New partner wanting to become legal parent
Show your support
He doesn't have any red flags. He does more for my kids then the own dad. He is there for every doctors visit. He knows more about my kids then their own dad. He works everyday and does little side jobs on the side for the weekends.
If you believe in God pray about it. Observe him and follow your gut feeling. At the end of the day it is your decision and your children will either thank you or be upset by the decision. If he has all intentions to help you raise them go for it but please do not do it out of desperation. My advice is not to say that the man is a bad guy but my advice is just to open your eyes to make sure you are making a good decision for your family! Good Luck!!
I'd say to take your time, have a good long chat about why he wants this. Explain that it's obviously a massive step and commitment, and that you need to make sure you're both on the same page before going ahead with it. What's his relationship with the kids like? Are they old enough to be asked what they think about this? Also would it be something the biological dad has to agree to? Are you planning on getting married in the future? And if so do you think that it would make sense to do it then, because that's when he's committing to you legally as well? You could even do it as a thing where he's marrying all of you, you're all legally becoming a family together.
2 years seems fast to me. If you guys ever split up he’d have equal parental rights to you.,, then again it took me over 4 years to marry my husband so I’m slow to commit lol
Take your time Does he have any red flags? Is this something that you brought up or did he bring it up? Are you married to him? Does he have a stable job and takes care of himself? Does he go above and beyond for the kids? Does he have kids of his Own? No need to answer these questions but you just have to be really careful out here. You have to be careful that you don’t fall into the wrong hands just because you would like someone to fill that void. After I left my child’s father there was this guy who seemed like a great fit but then after there were things that I noticed that I did not want. It’s like he was pushing himself on me rather than giving me the space I needed. A lot of men smell insecurity if you feel you are insecure in any way leave him and take the time you need to build yourself. Do not become a single mom again just because of “love”.