What do you think I should do?
Hi! I’m Brianna, I am a mom to a gorgeous 11 month old baby girl! I’m having problems with my mother in law and don’t know what to do:
. I went to Meijer today while leaving my husband with the baby and his mom to visit. I have rules for my daughter and my husband knows what they are and agrees!
So with this being said
1. I do not let pets around my daughter because she doesn’t know how to properly wash her hands, keep away and dogs can be mean!
2. I do not let anyone including family kiss my daughter on the lips or close to the lips
3. I do not let anyone feed my daughter from something they licked, bite, ate, ext.!
4. I do not let my daughter have sweets or anything like that without my permission or her dad’s permission because my husband I diabetic and we don’t want our daughter to become one. Plus we want her healthy and she is 11 MONTHS!
5. No passing her around
6. No smoking around or before seeing her
7. No baths without mom or dads consent
Ok so here is the story now:
I dropped my husband and my daughter off at his mom house because she was giving us some diapers and cooking dinner for my husband. I didn’t want to be there because I am not respected. So I went to Meijer to get some shopping done. Well. My husband was eating when his mom decided to give my daughter a bath without permission. My daughter started screaming at the top of her lungs so my husband ran to the bathroom and took was about to take her out of the bath when he noticed his mom was washing my daughters girlie part and then with the same cloth did her stomach and FACE!! he told me he got the baby out immediately and started drying her off. His mom pushed him out of the way and SPREADED open her girl part to “dry” it. He yelled at her and told her to stop but since he didn’t have the car he could not just leave. Then she pushed his once again and put baby powder on my daughter’s feet and arm pits. Not only that but she was putting baby oil in my daughter’s hair after my husband told her not to and she continued anyways. THEN she went and tried making the dog get all over my daughter and her hands. HER HANDS GO IN HER MOUTH THATS DISGUSTING! On top of this she took her to the kitchen, started feeding her ICE CREAM! And licked the ice cream and kept giving it back to my daughter. I’m sorry but this is FUCKING DISGUSTING.. then she tried giving her a pacifier that is currently being used.
plus on top of this every time she sees my daughter I have bad anxiety and depression after because she never listens.
She disrespects me and my husband all the time by calling us bad parents, or trying to control what we are doing and when. She also pretends that she’s my daughter’s mother which pisses me off more. She calls herself “mama” and I tell her absolutely not and continues to do it every time and said I’m just “mommy”! Like NO! It goes mama, mommy, mom. My MIL has a 8y old as well who was there defending my husband!!!
So I would like advice on what to do? Am I overreacting?
Oh she has you all the way fucked up, and forgive me but your husband needs to grow some balls and stand up to her, Mom or not she would have been cursed out for the blatant disrespect, and Then he should have packed them up and got Lyft Uber, cab or whatever home. She is a danger to your child y’all need to stay away from her. Have a conversation if you’d prefer but, there wouldn’t be anything she needed to say, she literally broke every single one of your rules with 0 regard to you and this is a habit that needs to be broken in these disrespectful ass MIL’s this has my blood boiling for you; idc who you are when it come to my child what I say goes or you can never see them again Period. I pray it all works out for y’all, you and hubby have to be a United front but the shift starts with him.