Pregnant again?

No your not a POS You have three options though and no one can make that choice for you.

Your feelings are absolutely valid. But no one can make or even really help you make the decision about what you do with the pregnancy going forward.

Every baby brings a blessing. I changed cars and move to better places every time I had another kids

Sorry you’re going through this but I’m here to say Life is sacred and you’ll be blessed beyond imagination if you preserve your baby and trust God

@Sara I don’t believe in god ima satanist

It’s ok, you can still do the right thing even if you don’t believe in God. And btw I’m not Christian/catholic, I’m Jewish so the God you think I’m talking about, I’m not! lol

@Sara Not everyone believes in god. And acting like a baby isn't a huge financial, physical and mental burden that some people are truly not equipped to handle at a specific time is not helpful.

I’m not denying that I’m just adding that Gd provides for each baby, materially and spiritually. And by the sounds of it, by her question, she still is considering the option of keeping him/her so, I’m just here to encourage her. I was a single teenage mother and it was hard as F8&

Ps. No one is a POS for making decisions under stressful situations. But we as humans were blessed with a frontal lobe, we can make intelligent and moral decisions.

@Sara abortion is healthcare. It's just as moral and intelligent of a choice as following through with a pregnancy.

@M agreed. Abortion is healthcare if the life of the mother is in danger.

@Sara that is factually incorrect. Abortion is a medical procedure. It is healthcare regardless of whether a woman's life is in danger or if it is a choice she makes about her own body and her life with the help of her medical provider. Mental health is just as important as physical health.

We can agree to disagree on this. Like the comedian Patrice O’Neal would say: the mother is just the apartment for the baby. Dear anonymous, I wish you much luck with your decision. We as mothers are in this together and I’m so happy you reached out for support. Let me know if you want to speak privately. All the best!

@M A lot of wrong doings are seen as healthcare just because life is hard that doesn't mean you take another's life when you can choose to give them life without you I was in this situation and the only option was adoption I never considered a third option but then again I have faith in my lord and savior and he has provided I know have a house being built for my family and have a government job 2 years ago I would of laughed at the possibility but here I am and my son is happy and healthy with an amazing family who could not have their own

@Ray as stated above, not everyone believes in god. Your religion has no place in other people's healthcare. YOUR only option was adoption, not THE only option. No one is forcing you to have abortions, you can't force others to follow your religion.

Facts are: anyone I know who’s had a voluntary abortion (and I know a lot of my friends in Colombia had) have very sad miserable lives, they never recovered from the experience and have very bad mental health. Talking about women’s healthcare: whenever you can keep a baby, it’s very good for your mental health. As Incognito herself said it: she would have lots of guilt about it. I’m not at all right now talking about religion or God. For mental health reasons alone, do not abort if you can. The following article became viral because many women resonated with the woman’s experience: https://romyholland.substack.com/p/what-nobody-told-me-about-abortion?r=fdsrf&utm_medium=ios&triedRedirect=true

“There is no funeral for aborted babies," she writes. "No memorial services. No 'I'm sorry for your loss' cards." Instead, women like Holland carry their grief in silence, their devastation hidden beneath slogans about choice and empowerment. "The truth is, abortion is a permanent decision based on a temporary circumstance," she writes. And the cruelest irony? Holland believed she was choosing abortion to protect her future, but the future she imagined never came. “I thought abortion would solve my problems," she confesses. "Instead, it created wounds that I am still trying to heal." (From Evie Magazine)

@Sara nothing you have said is fact. You are using anecdotal evidence to what, guilt trip OP? That's disgusting behavior. You can find women on both sides of this argument, those who have regrets and those who don't. None of it is helpful. An actual peer reviewed study from UCSF showed that 95% of women who had an abortion of their own choice and free will did not regret it. Cherry picking articles from random magazines doesn't make anything fact. And saying "facts are" doesn't actually make something factual.

OP, I'm sorry that people have overtaken this post with their own religious issues when you have already stated you are not religious and just looking for support. I have had an abortion that I have never regretted, it did infact save my life and make my life a million times better, I never could have imagined the life I have now. I have also kept an unplanned pregnancy and that little boy is my absolute world. I have been where you are sitting and I have made both choices. If you want to chat feel free to message me. I will not judge you for any decision you make that you have deemed right for yourself. I hope you find solace in your decision, whatever it may be.

Incognito said Idk what to do…. I don’t want to have another baby rn but like I know if I abort it ima feel hella fucking guilty… I’m just here without any religious agenda to tell you that won’t go away if you feel like that now.

@M no adoption was my only personal option if you don't believe in god fine but believe in yourself

@Ray you literally just repeated what I said. I believe in myself just fine, which is why I am completely confident and comfortable with my beliefs and decisions that are scientifically based. Your god has no place in anyone else's healthcare.

@M yea but this post isn't about you why are you arguing with my choice to share my experience with the person asking for advice your arguing with anyone with beliefs different than yours religion aside I was in a similar situation so I shared my experience which was with adoption if you were in a similar situation than share it but stop creating negativity when there is only positivity being shared

@Ray you're the one that came for me? You tagged me first. Based on a comment that was not directed at you, and then you brought religion into it when OP has expressly said she does not believe in god. She stated she is a Satanist and if you want to really split hairs about religion.....abortion is a protected right in the satanic temple.

@M I never used religion against her as she stated she is a satanist I shared my experience as a Christian so why am I attacked for that you came for another woman for sharing her experience as well are you the defender of this comment section or something cause no one is talking to you

@Ray again, to the other commenter I pointed out that bringing God into the conversation was unhelpful as OP stated she was not religious and the other commenter kept commenting that she could do the right and moral thing. Using religion in any aspect when OP has stated it does not apply to her is unhelpful. You quite literally started talking to me, so you do you, but don't come at me because you butted into a conversation you apparently don't want to be a part of.

Give yourself a week or two for the news to settled and see how you feel. My oldest was only 18 months when I unexpectedly got pregnant with my second I was so scared and felt mentally physically and emotionally unprepared. But now I so glad for her

Hey mama. There are resources out there for struggling mamas. If you want support in keeping your baby, there are lots of pregnancy resources out there. There’s a Facebook group that can help depending on the area you’re in.

Girl you need to do what is right for you. No Judgements. You could always have an open adoption if you don’t like the other options.

Ignore the judgmental bigots in these comments. Full honestly, you’ll likely not feel great after an abortion or adoption… you have the support from lots of people in this community though. I’ve had an abortion before. The guilt is there but it was the right decision for my circumstance. I don’t regret it one bit. There is always surrogacy as another option. Keeps another poor child from being lost in the “system” and the future parents are able to participate in the 9 months leading up to the birth. You also get healthcare, payment, etc. You’re going to make the right decision for yourself. Trust yourself and don’t let ANYONE pass judgment on you.