Today, Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, shared her heartbreaking account of miscarriage.
She explains how ‘losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few’.
Despite how common it is for women to experience such grief - nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss - the conversation around miscarriage remains taboo and so many women suffer in silence.
Peanut is a place for these conversations to be had.
We understand her pain, her grief, and her bravery.
Every day, women turn to Peanut to share their experiences of miscarriage in search of comfort, advice, and support.
So, today, we’re sharing a collection of those stories to continue the conversation and help break the taboo.
Meghan, you’re not alone - here’s why:
“A few months ago I was alone in the doctor’s room because of COVID and I heard the words that will haunt me forever, ‘I’m sorry, but I cannot find a heartbeat’. I was devastated but also numb, almost like a part of me died that day. I was so upset, I didn’t just lose a child, I lost all of the plans for our future. It was pain and guilt like I’ve never felt before. To the women who have shared their experiences, thank you. You helped me put my pain into words.”
“I suffered 3 early miscarriages before the birth of my precious baby boy. One at 12 weeks, one at 5 weeks and the third at 8 weeks. Through all of them, I felt scared, upset and so disappointed that my body had let me down. Miscarriage is horrendously painful, physically and emotionally, but it helped me tremendously hearing that I was not alone. I was able to find comfort and support in other women who had been through or were going through it too.”
“In the last six months, I’ve lost four babies to miscarriage. I’ve never felt grief or pain like it. My whole world, our plans for a nursery and family, my motherly status, gone. I decided to share my story, and so many women in my life reached out to tell me they had experienced miscarriages too - knowing I’m not alone and others have gone through it really helps.”
“I still remember lying in the hospital bed waiting for the contractions to start so I could deliver my twins and lay them to rest. I couldn’t sleep. I stayed up all night wondering what I had done wrong. Losing a child is soul crushing. It took me a long time to grieve and it wasn’t a straight path of recovery, Some days I felt like I was finally ready to return back to life and then suddenly I would see or hear something that would trigger me back into a deep depression”
If you feel comfortable, please join us in sharing your story. Our collective bravery can help millions of women feel less alone.