Does anyone else’s spouse/ significant other make you feel bad for wanting to go out?
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My husband made me feel bad for going out, until we found out he had PPD. (Yes, dads can get it too) 100% I would go get yourself a treat and not let him or yourself make you feel guilty. It sounds like he works out of the home. So he has plenty of opportunities to stop at a gas station and get a quick snack without kiddos. Stay at home moms don’t have that luxury unless dads clock in for parenting duty. I would sit down with him (and a mutual 3rd party like a therapist if you can) and try and make a set schedule of when YOU get to exit the house kid free. And when the kids are old enough, that dad leaves the house WITH THE KIDS and you stay home kid free. I’ve got a 2 year old and a 3 month old. My husband will take them both to fill my car up with gas, while I get to shower, or stretch, or read a book, or pee without someone banging on the door 😂 I hope some of that helps. I definitely have bad days as a SAHM and you can 100% message me if you ever need to vent!
I know how I feel with my 2 year old and I’m a SAHM, and sometimes I just need to feel like a person outside of being a mother and wife. You shouldn’t feel guilty about it and I’m sorry your partner is making you feel that way. While I don’t know what “out” looks like for you, for me it’s maybe going and grabbing some food and a drink at a bar and working on some emails or planning or meeting a friend for a drink. The first time I brought this up to my husband, he didn’t understand, but he didn’t make me feel guilty so this is the best advice I can give based on my experience. It helped to explain that he talks to other adults at his job and he gets a social experience from that and being a SAHM can be really lonely and isolating. Being around other adults is important whether you’re talking to them or not.