Ask for care gift package. Things you use everyday. Or jewelry.
I felt the same way. My LO was born 2 1/2 weeks before my bday so not much I could do. I asked for my favorite foods and had family over. It was nice fam hung out and helped with baby.
Maybe ask for an event involved gift! Show tickets, date night, gift cards to favorite stores/food places, things for a hobby of yours, etc!
I have a 10yr old and a 15m old, it never goes away lol I can't remember the last time I actually got something that was only for me
Have them take you on a date