Baby shower drama

Hi all! I need some opinions here. So my mom really wants to host a baby shower for me with the help of my aunts. I’d really like to give her the opportunity to do this because I definitely let my mother-in-law railroad all the wedding plans and I don’t want that to happen with this. I just found out from my husband that his mom has already booked a venue to have a separate baby shower for us with her friends/family, without saying anything to me about it. I’m going to my MILs house tomorrow to talk to her about it because I really want my mom to be able to host the event and I honestly don’t want two showers, one being with a bunch of people I don’t know. Do you think I’m within my right here to talk to my MIL about this? I am nervous and hate confrontation but I also don’t appreciate her just kind of doing her own thing without talking to me. When I talked to my mom about my MIL having her own thing she seemed hurt and I understand why. What do you think?

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It is 100% your choice. If you want your mom to do it let her do it. Its your baby.. your boundaries. That’s how I see it

@Mary thank you for this!

she absolutely has no right to just assume she can throw you a shower & that you want her to. it’s 100% up to you & nobody else.

@Samara thank you! I appreciate her wanting to do something, I just really wish she had talked to me about it first so we could’ve collaborated on something.

Just say, “That won’t be possible.” You don’t need a reason. Your mom is already hosting. And she didn’t even ask so she’s in the wrong! I’d make sure your partner is being supportive. If you really feel like being sweet, you can say “My mom and aunts have already planned the shower and I know she’s really looking forward to including you for some grandma bonding time.” My MIL was incredibly difficult during my first pregnancy and my husband’s aunt wound up hosting for me! The best person is the one you’re comfortable with.

i wouldn’t talk to her about it that’s her money😂😂 let her have her own bbyshower i jus wouldn’t be there maybe her son can put on a fake stomach or something i definitely wouldn’t stress myself out about somebody esle money with i had a son 7 years ago an his father sisters did the samething guess wat i showed up for 2 hours an left they called me an said we’re yu go i said home y’all enjoy y’all bbyshower an hung up my phone an went home an got in my bed

Absolutely! Definitely talk to your mother in law and tell her how you feel about it

Agree with everyone here and I’ll also say feel free to have more than one shower :) My family friend (basically like an aunt who helped raise me) really wants to host my baby shower, but my little sis who studied hospitality and event planning had already had all these great ideas that she wanted to use. So I’ve decided my aunt will host the family shower and my sis will host the one that will be more for friends :) the more the merrier lol and the vibes would end up being so different at each too

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