Do I give birth alone or with ex partner

Me and my child’s father have recently split due to arguments and he walked out on me. I am due to give birth in less than a month. He wants to be at the birth but I feel uncomfortable being around him and think it would create a negative birthing environment having him there. Has anyone gave birth in the hospital alone? What’s your experience?
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If you feel its going to be negative then absolutely do not have him there. You need to be calm and relaxed to help baby out as peacefully as possible. Do you not have a friend or a relative who could be there for you instead? Just because baby's dad won't be there doesn't mean you have to go it alone. Xx

I agree with what Laura says. You don't need to go through it alone. You could always ask a close friend or relative to support you through the birth

You’ll be in a really vulnerable position, and labour can become very stressful. Don’t have him there if you’re not comfortable around him, or don’t want him involved in medical decisions. But I would recommend having someone. A friend? Family member? Doula? Some doulas may provide free or lower cost services. Worth investigating.

I wouldn’t want any of my family members there, I don’t have that kind of relationship with my mum and I think it’s such an intimate moment for a friend? I’d rather be alone if not with an intimate partner and it’s so short notice!

I personally wouldn’t want him there, I’d rather do it alone than with someone who’s walked out on me, the midwives will help you x

If y'all were on good terms I'd say allow it, but if it's so bad you are not comfortable he can wait in a waiting room to meet his child. Unless you think he's a danger to the little one then he shouldn't be there at all

Speak to your OBGYN about this. Maybe they can make suggestions. Also might want to think about hiring a birth doula, someone to support and advocate for you so you don't have to be alone.

If you can afford it, you can get a doula to be with you so your not alone.. personally I wouldn’t have my ex, or family and I don’t have friends like that either so I would likely go at it alone or I would hire a doula, some can work with people that cannot afford much also and they are trained for this so not just any random person with you.

Don't have him there if you don't want to. Its completely your right. He has no rights until he's on the birth certificate. I gave birth to my daughter in hospital alone and I actually preferred it because tbh men are annoying, don't do what you say and get in the way 😄 it was me and one midwife, she was great and made me feel like I was strong and could do it, I did it with no pain relief also (kind of had to as her head was already there). You can totally do it or get a friend or family member to be with you instead x

I'll also be doing it alone this time, possibly with my sister if she can get here quick enough x

I wouldn’t if it might make you uncomfortable but you should have someone to advocate for you, even if it’s a trusted family member on speed dial.

I’m also being induced so it’s more planned/under control so I don’t have the worry of getting myself to the hospital

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