Just arguing with another lady in a different group that said Baby Mama’s come first!
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The children come first Not the baby mama What a weird outlook for that lady 🤣 like I wouldn’t want my ex to put me before his partner or my partner put his ex before me wtf hahaha
Sorry what? I have never heard this! Does she have low self estem? Kids come first, then your partner, the ex shouldn't even be in the running, apart from respect that she's his baby mama! Wow
The kid/s, absolutely. The baby mama?? Not a chance! I get maybe sometimes sacrifices are made for the sake of keeping the peace (we’ve rescheduled plans before bc she’d changed hers last minute so we’ve had to swap what weekends we have SS otherwise she’d throw a hissy fit 🙄) but consistently being sidelined for her? In a long term relationship? Hell no!!
@Amy haha exactly it was about the keychain and she made it about how baby mums come first and they should have respect before a partner that’s not yet given him a child! 🤯 but I think most of them that agreed with her are people that have never been in a two household dynamic. I understand why you’d be upset about the key chain, I would be too.
@Amy The children needs come first but this woman is making it seem like the baby mums feelings are more important than the dads partner which I could never be in a relationship with a man that feels like that.
@Chevonne hell to the no no no! I’d be packing my bags 🤣
@Angel yeah exactly! Basically saying the baby mum should come first because I haven’t given my partner a child yet🤣 like the lady above said, we’ve had to change plans to keep the peace but he’d never put her first
@Laura I looked at her profile and she’s not had her baby yet I think she’s speaking from a place of ignorance tbh
@Angel honestly idk why anyone would think it’s okay 🥴 doing what’s best for the kid is one thing but I refuse to come second to another woman’s every whim!! 😂
The women who say that are the type to put their partners etc above their kids or the extremely jealous type my SS mum told my partner he was a bad dad because he took me on weekends away and never did that with her! (They dated for 4 months because she got pregnant off a hook up!) She also cried and threw a hissy fit when she found out we were having a baby of our own and said i was wrong for pushing SS in a pram when his dad wasn’t there!
this rattled me! shes not a step mum so shes thinking of it like a bio mum and godforbid her and her partner ever split up and he gets with someone else cos then she’ll be the typical bitter baby mum with that mindset 😭
@Emily do our step kids have the same mum because you literally described what I’ve been through too🤣🤣 & she gets jealous of our relationship and what he does for me knowing full well she was in a situationship with him for a few months tops 8 years ago!🤦🏾♀️ she had this same mindset that she must come first or she’ll cut contact until we got that amazing ✨court order✨
@Charlee I didn’t want to say it but yes she’d definitely be a bitter baby mama and have a rude awakening if they ever break up and he moves on 😂
@Angel apparently we do 😂 so nice to find someone who had the same situation no one understands how weird it is to be step mum to a kid that came from basically a one night stand it’s like an entire different situation. They’re so bitter like what did you plan on baby trapping the man?!
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@Angel its absolutely horrible that their are people like it, my husbands ex is like it, she thinks shes still top priority, and it definitely doesn’t work like that unfortunately not whilst im about anyway
@Emily yeah it’s nice to relate to someone because it really is sooo weird! I get she might have had feelings for him but it was nearly a decade ago and lasted a few months so why still hold on and be bitter 🤦🏾♀️
@Charlee it’s not nice at all. Eventually they’ll understand that it doesn’t work like that and just have to accept it or be miserable.
@Angel yeahh persistent is key!
@Angel mine was like 2 years ago but still come on you got pregnant and then he dated you for 3ish months you have a kid with another man too it’s like just because we’re happy she has to be mean
I'm a step mum to 2 children who live full time with me . I knew when marrying my husband he had children and so did I so we became a blended family. For 3years I dealt directly with his ex wife as they struggled to communicate our focus wasn't on her but for the children . Now my husband has passed and I have SGO so my bonus children in my eyes my kids all live with me . I still communicate every once in a while with their bio mum so to speak but only for the kids. It was a massive tick so to speak that although their relationship was strained he made sure that his kids and his ex lived a comfortable life as she was the main carer to his children . But at no point did she come before anyone else it was always the kids , me and then the ex . X
@Fliss - Zaza I’m really sorry for your loss and totally agree with you. It’s one thing to respect the mother it’s another to put her before the woman you’re with 💯
Nah. Step kids come first… Not their BM
I don’t…I went incognito for the fact I might’ve gotten judged but ah well🤣 it was my post and that girl was ridiculous, my whole point was just the keychain…he’s never put his ex before me