Second ultrasound blues (baby is healthy but the nurse was a dud)

I'm not sure if I'm posting this for advice or just to vent or what...: I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my first child and just had my second ultrasound. The first one I had, at 6 weeks, was amazing. It was too early to hear the heartbeat but the nurse we saw was incredible. I don't even know how to put into words how personable and engaged she was. She MADE the experience magic for us. For this second ultrasound today I knew I wouldn't be seeing her but I wasn't expecting such a starkly different experience. The nurse and doctor who were in the room for the scan hardly engaged with my husband and I, didn't talk us through anything, didn't really respond to us trying to break the ice or talk, and then hurried us in and out with very little info other than "yeah the baby is fine" right at the end. I was so nervous for the scan and so anxious to hear the heartbeat, which we didn't get to hear, and they were just so cold/detached like they didn't care we were there. They weren't rude to us, they just didn't seem ....engaged AT ALL. When they left the room I was choking back tears because it just felt like I had done something DEEPLY personal with people who didn't give a shit. I let it really take the magic out of the experience for me. I'm trying to focus on how happy I am the baby is healthy and good but i'm feeling really sad. I know this will pass and it's no biggie in the long run but this was supposed to be a big moment for my husband and I and it fell so flat. I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this but I have to say I appreciate having this app because when my husband left my first thought was that I could come here and feel like I'm not alone.

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You're not alone. I had a similar experience with my anatomy scan. My actual 20w scan was amazing. The tech was training another girl and both seemed like they were so excited for us and made us feel warm and welcome. They don't usually do 3D but I asked anyway and she was like I got you girl and we got some anyway. The doctor asked us back in 4 weeks because they were keeping their eye on something and when we went back I was excited to see baby girl again, because after this my doctor won't do more unless there's a concern. I was ready just to see her in 2D, but the tech was so dry and short with us, and didn't focus on her silhouette for even a second so we could see her again. Just took measurements and was out. I was so disappointed and wanted to cry because it was our last one as long as everything is healthy.

Can you look into a private clinic near you? We've been to one twice here for this baby and it was the best experience, and I want to go again next month for a third trimester scan. We went at 10 weeks and again at 13 weeks because I had a gift card. It will lift your spirits up again.

I relate to this. I only had one scan so far at 8weeks. The sonographer just had a an off vibe. Like you said, not engaged. I mean she did get the job done and I got a good look at my little bub but the way she said “good job” felt insincere. Eh, what can you do? At least you know this negative feeling will pass.

Aww, I know how you feel. All I can say is either change practice or request the same nurse if you can. You want someone you can connect to and feel comfortable enough to ask questions. I switched by OB after my 3rd visit. It was the same practice, but different Dr. My regular OB wasn't on schedule and I saw a different one at the time. Wow, complete difference! I felt an instant connection. I didn't feel rushed and it felt like she actually cared. Ever since then, I requested my appts with her and she was also at the hospital to deliver my baby. So glad I saw and changed doctors

Why do you need scans every 2 weeks...?

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