I agree, get a second opinion.
Okay. So surgery isn't a forced option? I dont want to be a bad mom but i also dont want to just give in
I would get a second opinion , but that same thing happened to my 3 year old from nursing. She has caps on some of her teeth and the 3 in the front unfortunately couldn't be saved but she's thriving and has adapted well without them.
Speaking as someone who has frequent gum infections, please just make sure you don't drag out the issue too long. Get the second opinion and look into your options, but don't put it on the back burner for months - even if the reason is the cost (financing and Care Credit may be an option for you). These infections can be very painful and distracting. And the more they occur, the more they can lead to other health issues.
Get a second opinion