Gift giving

Just do what you wanna do

I don’t think it’s fair to show up empty handed to the kids party. It’s not their fault their parents don’t return the favor. But i totally think you should show up empty handed to anything to do with your brother and his partner.

I don't think the kids should he punished for the actions of their parents.

Poor kids. It’s not their fault. 🫤

Who turns up to a kids party without a gift for the kid? 🥴

Yes because if your giving them presents and there not giving you none that's petty I would come empty handed if I got someone and there kids presents every year and they don't get me non then I'm not giving you presents Intel you give me one

I don’t want to be petty in any way but they go to her family functions and give gifts so so we all know she’s aware

Do they have money though? Gifts shouldn’t be expected. I hate how it’s assumed that everyone should bring a gift. Some people want to still celebrate others but don’t necessarily have the money for gifts. It’s not fair to be mad at them if that’s not something they are able to do yet still come because they want to be apart of celebrating a birthday

They gift everyone expect our kids, granted we make great money. But that’s no excuse

Sorry @Emma completely disagree, gifts at a kids party absolutely should be expected. No one is saying you have to spend hundreds, I only spend £10 for a present for a kids party that my daughter has been invited to. If it’s a relative’s kid, I might stretch to double that but the point is, you don’t turn up empty handed. Even if you put the money in a card, you don’t turn up to a kids party with nothing. It’s rude and bullshit behaviour. If I was dead broke and absolutely destitute and couldn’t afford a gift, I would message the parents in advance and let them know that as much as I would love to, I wasn’t able to afford a gift. That way, 1) the parents know I’m not a cheeky fucker and 2) they probably would turn around and say don’t even worry about it so any guilt is assuaged. Anyway,the point here seems to be that the brother and partner are purposely excluding Incog’s child. That is something perhaps your partner needs to discuss with his brother to find out what his problem is.

It’s like showing up to a wedding without a card/money. Just not acceptable

@Jen I disagree. I always give gifts for everything. But I never expect them. I had like 80 people at my wedding and less than half of them gave any gift or even a card. It’s not supposed to be expected. I hate how people expect gifts

@Emma that’s surely not how I was brought up. When you show up to a wedding you are paying basically for your ‘plate.’ People spend sooooo much time/energy/money on weddings that is the LEAST ppl can do to show them respect. Same with birthday parties. A card, something small, I understand people aren’t always financially able… but at least a card with a nice message. @Emma since your younger, maybe some of your guests haven’t been taught like normal wedding etiquette.. once you have planned a wedding yourself, you know better than to show up empty handed to a wedding.