Fake Absence

My guy was off on Sunday while I worked until 5:00. I always hear from him about that time to come over or do something for dinner but this time he didn’t. I wasn’t going to contact him first because on his days off he drinks all day. The only communication I got was a Snapchat saying good night at 11:30. I’m sure he was with someone else. After all, we are only FWB but it still bothers me. Today we both were off. He Snapped me wanting to know if I wanted to do something. I lied and told him I had plans. I’m tired of being available every time he wants to get laid. He Snapped me again asking if I wanted to do something later. I lied again and told him I was leaving town for a couple days and that I would see him at work Wednesday. Yes, we work together. I told him this on Monday. He Snapped me to drive safe. I didn’t respond and haven’t heard anything from him and I’m doing no contact and absence for two days. I guess I want to see if he misses me at all if I’m not here. I also want him to think I’m up to no good or that I could be getting laid out of town. I’m actually staying home in my P.J’s and watching movies. I’m off again today and I’m doing the same thing. Saying I’m staying out of town an extra day. I guess I need some feedback from you awesome ladies. Have you done something like this? Am I wrong? I know he’s hooking up with someone else I’m sure but even though it bothers me I don’t care at the same time. I definitely don’t trust him and have pictures of him sexting his ex. Is what I’m doing a sign that I should end it completely or roll with the punches. The last time I ignored him for a couple days he Snapped that it’s been too long and he loves me. I love him too but I know this is a toxic relationship. Sorry about the rambling around but I had to get this off my chest. Advice 🙏 please.
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@Jocelyn I’m not mad. Just venting feelings.

Sound like his playing with your feeling "I love you" strong word

It doesn’t sound toxic, it sounds like you need to communicate. If the situation is FWB but you want more then you need to have then conversation to see where his head is. If you’re pretending to be okay with the set up how is he meant to know you’re not. It can be hard to be vulnerable but better to know where you stand and then you can decide if you’re happy just being FWB if that’s all he is wanting to commit to, or if you need to walk away if he’s not wanting to take it any further. He could be feeling the same as you but doesn’t know how to communicate it either. But going about it this way will just exhaust you and probably not end in a healthy way

You’re not in a relationship. You should end it because clearly you want more than he does. Your feelings are involved.

@Lily nah your hurt. And that’s okay.

Who needs this drama. It sounds like you have a nice time without him too. If he isn’t reciprocating effort and you want more from him than just FWB (and have told him this) then just sack him off.

Anna, I’ve tried, but my heart aches for him when I do. We always end up back together.

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