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C Section Date and Telling Family

Alright ladies! I am going to be setting my c section date at my next appointment. I have been going back and forth about if I want to tell both sides our families the day or if we want to hold out. We know the week of which we will have our c section just not the actual day. For some context: my family is great but my boundaries are never respected and my parents are blabber mouths and will tell aunts and uncles and cousins and just not keep it private. His family is a lot more private but they also can be a little needy and overbearing. I am a very private person and my rules are pretty strict- no visitors at hospital or 4 days after we get home, no social media, etc etc. I would love to hear stories on what you did for your scheduled c section? Did you tell them the date just not the time? Did you tell them the week and thats it?

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Our families are the same way. They don’t even know we are pregnant again but we have our c section date and they will not be knowing until after a couple of weeks after he is born. My family will be watching my daughter while in the hospital but that’s because we will be on a “kids free vacation” in a very private person and our families ruined the experience for us the first time and we don’t want that to happen again

I told both sides but if nervous about boundaries then I probably wouldn’t. This is our third and final haven’t posted about it at all only told family we see. Maybe wait till closer to date and see what they say when you tell them your boundaries

@Alexandra Can I ask what happened the first time that they ruined it?

@Nadine they were complaining about us not wanting to have Visitors in the hospital, anytime we gave them updates it ended up on Facebook, they posted pictures of our baby before we did and without our permission, during my whole pregnancy we were in court fighting over custody with my husbands family because we were both still in college for a majority of our first pregnancy, and they kept telling us we’d never be good enough parents and we were getting in way over our heads. Overall it was an experience we didn’t want to go through again

This is what I’m thinking too. Due May 9th but we find out this Friday the date for little man’s section, I was thinking it would be nice to just be able to call them up and be like baby’s here!! I mean, we would have to tell 1 family member as she’s having our other 2 kids when we go in x

@Alexandra Okay wow!! Custody?! Do not blame you one bit girl! And see all of that not respecting boundaries like facebook, visitors, the comments, the complaining. Thats the stuff that drives me bananas

@Nadine we did win the case but all those things are still things my husband and I didn’t find acceptable behaviors from family

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