When did you know?
When did you know you were ready to try again after a miscarriage? I know everyone is different but I feel like I want to try asap but also at the same time I’ve just lost my baby boy at 9 weeks pregnant and I want to honour him and grieve him properly too. This loss has been so much harder than my other losses and I don’t know if it’s because we tried for him for 4 and a half years, I knew he was a boy or because I had a scan and seen his little heart beating. I have had 5 losses altogether, 3 when I was younger and then one in September. I found this time was so so much worse than the others like I feel absolutely sole crushing, heart breaking, agonising pain. I was distraught over them all but I feel so much worse this time and I don’t know why.
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know if this is going to help you in any way or no but i lost my baby boy at 15 weeks in June. It was my first pregnancy and it happened after 2 years. I was beyond devastated. Personally my preference was to try again right away for a few reasons: 1. I didn't want to give in without having a baby in my arm. 2. I was convinced after a miscarriage women are more fertile and fall pregnant quickly and at the end of the day the emptiness was because of the baby. 3. I did grieve but i came to peace by understanding it wasn't meant to happen. My baby stayed in my womb for 15 weeks and was with his mama all through the time until he left and gave me immense happiness but it wasn't just meant for me. That being said, 2 cycles later, i found out i was pregnant again and miscarried 5 days later 2 days ago. I have decided to give my body a break but at the same time i am not preventing it. If it happens, its fine. If not thats okay too. Do whats best for u. Wishing u luck 😘 🤗